A little background (and I tend to write a lot, sorry haha)... I'm 19, in college, had 1 gf in my life, consider myself a little bit above average in the looks department. My main problem is inner game, and I've read and tried many things to fix it, with no results.

I've read about game for like 6 months, but my inner game keeps me from approaching toal strangers. Sucks. I know I'm capable of getting girls, it's just frustrating not being able to do it live. About 2 months ago, I tried a picture rating site for fun. 70% opened, 40% of those got to number closes (not great, but hey... 6 months). The one gf I've had was a girl that made me think "I could NEVER be with a girl as hot as her, especially with all the guys following her". I have potential, I know it, damn it...

So, I just moved to an apartment complex 1 week ago. This is a one time chance to do things right. I want to meet people here, make some friends at the very least. But again, my inner game and confidence have kept me from talking to "neighbors" my own age. I need to change that, the question is how?

I have been trying radical changes in many aspects of my life (working out a bit, playing sports, trying to go out more often, stay in a good mood) and it kind of paid off last month. While doing somewhat of an internship, I met this HB9.She's really into me, one of her best friends told me, and I can tell. I'm keeping the mentality that I'm the prize, and it seems to be working. the problem is, I hate this happening almost like a coincidence. I want to get the girl I want, when I want... not when "the opportunity comes along"

How do you guys sort inner game stuff, really? It's holding me back... like, there's this girl from college I'm REALLY attracted to but we have zero friends in common. Found her on facebook, but I'm too damn scared that she'll think I'm "the weirdo who adds girls on facebook". I know I shouldn't care, but I do... and not only what she thinks but what all my friends will think, it makes me feel stupid just thinking about opening her and then seeing her in person. Again, inner game, I realize it... any ideas? suggestions for this girl? anything?

Thanks guys!

There is an old phrase "We are only as great as we allow ourselves to be!". This phrase is the reason why most guys have trouble with women.

On a conscious level they want a high quality woman, but on a subconscious level they feel like they don't deserve a high quality woman. So the internal struggle begins, completely unbeknown to the conscious mind. Their subconscious finds a million ingenious ways to sabotage themselves. Real subtle sabotage too, like convincing themselves not to approach, acting weird around women they want, staying at home when they should be out, and becoming unapproachable while out. Basically, right before any real success occurs, the subconscious stops it dead in it's tracks.

Mirror affirmations are also very effective with this problem. Cory Sky had this system where he would write down a bunch of positive self-beliefs about himself and reasons why women would be lucky to be with him; them he would look himself in the mirror, eye to eye, and recite them. It looks and feels silly, but it has an amazing effect on the subconscious, which is where the problem exists to begin with.