after i joined this forum in 07 and started reasearchin and learnin everything just fell in to place and i shit you not i got every grl i fuckin wanted from that point on but a few months ago i met this grl and fell head over heels for her but we just recently broke up and i dont know what happend but my game hasnt been the same idk what the fuck is wrong with me. im sure im not the only one that goes through this but is someone can gimme some advice or a little guidence to get my game back together that be ausome. but i mean its not that i dont know the material its just that i dont feel the same that i used to. i dont really know how to explain it


plz help guys

Get a wingman and start hitting those bars n clubs. Or just start going out with the guys and get fucked up n drunk. Thats what i did to get over this last girl, now im back on my shit. Hope this helps. Good Luck.

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Wow, sounds like it's all between your ears man. Just start confidence building from scratch and get excited about gaming again.

It's not a secret that being with a pretty girl boosts our confidence and losing her boosts it down. Unless you are really in love with her and planning marriage, just forget her

I read somewhere that the more obsessed you become with a girl, the more it lowers your confidence. That happened to me and I'ma try not to let it happen again. I'm learning the most powerful seduction techniques that I can so that I'll have as much power as I can for myself and take away from girls the power to mess up my life. I want to be in full control of my own life and happiness and not leave those things up to some stupid chicks to mess it all up for me.

Sounds like you've just lost a bit of inner confidence. When you fall for a girl on that sort of level you start giving your power away because they become so valuable.

If you do it for too long it becomes the norm and you let people influence and dictate your reality more.

Essentially you need to reconnect with that inner confidence you originally had. Be your strong self again.

Here's the test - Is your world heavy or light? Do you feel like people are judging you sometimes? Do you ever try and win people's approval? Could you go out dressed like shit? Would it bother you?

I don't even know if this is your actual problem, i mean i'm guessing here. But if it is. Just remember fuck all matters, people are just people. Everyone is just doing the best they can at any given moment. Even if they're ripping on you. They genuinely believe that's the best thing to do. So don't take any of it seriously. Chill out, laugh, focus on being strong.

Have fun, be yourself, express yourself freely and just laugh and you'll be pulling girls left right and center all over again.

Peace out.

Wolfus.

I don't think what you lost was inner game. If you're in the situation as I am, you probably lost a bit of yourself or your personality. It's almost like a form of amnesia, like you don't know who you are. The only way to cure this is time. Then you will regain who you are.

Wolfus, the question of "Do you care if you go out and dress like shit?" has nothing to do with inner game unless you care if people care. I personally wouldn't go out dressed like shit because I don't feel good knowing I look like shit but I don't care if other people think I look like shit when I look good and I think I look good.

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Why is the Rhum gone?!

We all have moments in our life where we fall down and hurt our ass....the only thing that you can do is get up, dust yourself...get up on that horse looking good and try again...
hope you get your mojo back...you will sooner than you realize it...

Two reasons: its part of the greiving process, and she took half your confidence when she left.

If you have ever heard of the book "On death and dying" by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, it goes over the process of grieving and accepting death. Well that process doesn't just apply to death. We go through the same process with any significant loss. The five stages are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. Any of the first four can occur in any order and can even be repeated before one attains acceptance of a loss. There is no set time frame to accept a loss, it all depends on the individual and the impact the loss had on that individual. Until you accept the loss of this relationship, you will not be able to move on.

Secondly, in a relationship two people share all kinds of psychological properties. They share: self-esteem, confidence, resolve, emotional energy, joy, drive, even identities. This why sometimes it feels good to have a loved one with in hard times, even if they're not real doing anything tangible to help you, what they are doing is combing their strength with yours to make you stronger when you are weak. When she left, it was like part of your psyche left. You are at half-strength now, and you must strengthen yourself back up.

My advice, first deal with the grief head-on, don't act like your not sad over it. Confront your pain, let it run it's natural course, and accept the loss. Then do things that make you feel confident and strong again. This doesn't necessarily have to be pickup stuff either, just anything that would boost your confidence and self-esteem. Then you will be back to full strength again, a little wiser for the experience though.