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PostPosted: Sun May 17, 2009 10:09 am 
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I often find that when I fully understand the nature of a concept, it's far easier for me to apply it to my life. So here's the question:

What is it about jealousy that so disgusts women when men exhibit it? Why is it more acceptable for a woman to be jealous in a relationship (to an extent of course), whereas the same level of jealousy exhibited by the man sends the girl running in the opposite direction?

For months, my gf periodically checked my email and facebook inboxes. Girls who were my friends from the past, after seeing me with my HB10 gf, suddenly realized my value and started throwing themselves at me. As a result, my gf did all this snooping, was insanely jealous, an essentially forced me to cut these girls out of my life. Although I recognize this was ultimately my choice, I made the decision solely to calm her jealousy.

Later on, I read her email literally ONE time after I found out she lied to me about something, and she changed her passwords on her email, facebook, and computer. I totally understand her need for privacy, and neither of us should have been snooping in the first place, but I'm still wondering why the action yields such different results when I do it versus when she does it.

Perhaps my reaction should have been the same as hers?

Anyway, I was just wondering what people's thoughts were on this. Is it simply a DLV for both genders? Or is there a more complex evolutionary explanation for why the reactions differ so much across genders?


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PostPosted: Sun May 17, 2009 3:41 pm 
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The action yielded different results because you were willing to bend your reality--and your convictions-- to suit her by allowing her to snoop. She wasn't willing to bend hers, and I'm willing to bet she chastised you harshly following your adventure into her e-mail.

Your situation is, in my opinion, a product of two things: 1) a loss of the willingness to walk away and 2) a scarcity mentality. In other words, you allowed her behavior because you are either no longer willing to risk losing her to maintain your frame, afraid you won't be able to get another girl as "high-value" as her, or both.

As a PUA, you know all of those things are unattractive qualities. This is fundamentally why jealousy is undesirable in both sexes.

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PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 8:40 am 
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It's simple when you really step back and think about it.

Jealousy = fear of losing mate = weakness + low social value (can't get other mates).

It's alright for a woman to be somewhat jealous, because men aren't attracted to women based on strength or status (not as much as women are anyway). And losing a mate 1,000 years ago, meant death for a woman and her offspring due to lack of providing and protection.

On the other hand women are greatly attracted to men based on there strength and status. When you get overly jealous as a man, you are giving all you power away. You are showing too much insecurities and weakness and are not being the pillar of strength that women need to rely on in their lives.


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