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PostPosted: Mon May 11, 2009 4:04 am 
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One of my friends is having inner game problems and were trying to get to the root of it. He says that he always makes excuses for why cant do things like oh i shouldnt approach because... insert dumb reason here. Anything out htere to overcome his slanted logic?
All help is apprecitated.


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PostPosted: Mon May 11, 2009 8:06 am 
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I have the same problem to with multiple friends. It took me some time to find a wing (or at least someone who wants to open a set without much encouraging).

After some time you quit encouraging them to approach. Maybe they will approach once they see you having good results with women.

If they dont want to open, they wont. You cannot convince them if they dont want to.


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PostPosted: Tue May 12, 2009 6:14 am 
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They're not exactly...........excuses, they're more or less (good) reasons.


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PostPosted: Thu May 14, 2009 12:41 pm 
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Something you really have to get handled yourself. You can look for guidance & tricks to set you on your path but you got to really do it. You can give him some NLP/hypnosis things to help, but if he doesn't believe he isn't going anywhere.


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PUAdave is correct on the topic of belief.

he has to believe the ideas himself. Many have heard of limiting beliefs or limiting factors. Somewhere his wires became crossed, to the point that certain things in his reality he may believe, even if they hold no validation to them.

These factors cause a self confidence issue more then not, his fear of the unknown comes to the surface and his defense is to make some of the lamest excuses known.

a girl could be a perfect ten, and he may say something about her looks not being good enough...

i once had a friend, say he could pull any girl in the room, he would comment on how attractive certain girls would be when they walked by, i simply told him to go talk to her, he would tell me hes really not interested, but he would be ok if i went and brought her and her friends back to his place.

your friend is simply worried about what others think of him, first step is to ask him if he really wants to overcome the problem, because you can never help someone who wont help themselves. Next take him to a place like a wal-mart or park, where its public and open. Have him see an attractive girl, and think about approaching her, he then needs to relay exactly whats going on in his mind, the feelings he has, the though process, and discover the basic reason he is unable to act.

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