A cocky attitude is part of most PUAs arsenals. Have you ever wondered what led to this cocky attitude and why women find it so attractive? I've done some thinking on this subject and the answer seems so simple. Conditioning. We receive compliment after compliment about one thing or another. The compliments let us know that we are accepted by the people that give them to us. The acceptance leads to confidence and eventually the confidence leads to cockyness. Think about it for a second now, cockyness is a step beyond confidence. After receiving compliment after compliment we start to toy with different ways of taking them. We will say different things and make different gestures and gauge peoples reactions to them. Eventually we learn what gives desired responses and we are able to this because it is a consistent event for us. Whether women are conscious of their desire of cockyness or not I'm not sure, but I do know that it triggers an attraction switch. That somehow, in the back of their mind, they know this. They know that cockyness is the result of conditioning of social value.

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Cockyness and arrogance are both steps below confidence!

I think you can't really place cockiness and confidence on a hierarchy above or below each other, they are completely different things. Confidence is an internal structure of beliefs that reminds you that you like and trust yourself, while cockiness is just the resulting external actions and mannerisms that that show others how you feel about yourself. Simply confidence is for you, and cockiness is for others, but if you posses the confidence the cockiness will naturally manifest it's self.

So cockyness stems from confidence, right?

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Being a huge narcissist, I have this discussion fairly often in real life. I've thought a lot about it, and here's what I've come up with.

As I see it, cockiness is an inflated perception of ones' own self-worth that lacks any logical or quantifiable explanation. In other words, cocky people think they're great but a cursory examination of their life reveals no reason for them to think that way--and more importantly offers us no reason to believe them about their greatness.

Confidence, on the other hand, is a high perception of ones' self-worth based on actually being great. I consider myself confident, not cocky, because I'm smart, capable, I treat women like princesses and I have an ass that just won't quit, just to name a few qualities on the laundry-list of personality traits that make me fantastic

I am confident in my skills with women because I've put them to use enough times with enough success to have faith in them. If I were to try to fly a plane later today, I would probably resort to cockiness because I would be participating in an activity about which I know next to nothing.

Then again, I've always said, "If it has wheels, I can drive it." So maybe that's confidence too. Or maybe I am just an arrogant bastard

Your boy,
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