| Why has pick-up and seduction training ultimately not helped?
First, coaches often apply a superficial approach to training, giving students merely basic tips and exercises and not exploring deeper issues in the art of seduction. I have recently spoken to students who have been extremely frustrated by numerous training attempts with such inadequate coaches.
deeper issues in the art of seduction, as well as students' underlying attitudes and beliefs.
Pick-up training often involves a results-oriented programme where coaches provide students with advice, descriptions, and exercises.
Are results achieved? Often yes, but only on the surface. Such coaching is often superficial and does not take into account the 'big picture', neglecting the fact that what is on the surface is influenced by deep, underlying factors. It is nearly impossible to push students into a paradise, as students often have their own issues that prevent them from grasping it.
What is the reason for this? Because such students are fundamentally not ready for seduction, and superficial training can often aggravate their problems. On one hand, the students do manage to get the short-term sexual conquests that they desire. On the other hand, they usually fail to make long-term progress, as deeply rooted feelings of insecurity, possible fear, and awkwardness have accumulated over the years, and these results-oriented coaching sessions do nothing to improve the students' underlying state of mind or wellness. This is why these men are unable to construct the type of relationship with women that they truly crave.
For instance, a man may conquer a succession of women, leaving each one because he is relationship-shy. However, his approach leaves him feeling frustrated because he senses that he is doing something wrong. Or perhaps he pursues and sleeps with a woman he does not truly want, often creating obstacles that prevent him from attaining or engaging in intimate relationships with the women of his dreams.
I have seen cases where, even after completing a few training sessions, men still hardly meet women. They have to 'push' themselves to meet members of the opposite sex. Their attitudes are still conflicted. On one hand, they desire sex, closeness, and possibly an enduring relationship. On the other hand, they still retain a negative approach and uncomfortable connotations so that, even when encouraged by beautiful women, they do not follow through. Training should ideally help students to confront and overcome their deep issues as they acquire new techniques to ensure their mental, emotional, psychological, and sexual success with women. Unfortunately, all too often training simply does not deliver these needed benefits.
In my opinion, you must work through these issues. However, working ONLY with your inner self will also fail, since such an approach that eliminates feelings of negativity and insecurity must be combined with practical techniques and proven pick-up tools.
Such a two-pronged solution will be more helpful in both the short-term and the long-term, as it will help you to get exactly what you want, devoid of any associations of past pain.
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