Well, long story short, but I had a girlfriend for ~10-12months all was happy and fine (just perfect), but then I became too jealous and then she kind dumped me for another guy. After that she became to write me more and more on SPAM.. so now we're some kind of 'friends', but not really.

ANYWAY!
I don't wanna make her dump her current boyfriend, she already likes someone else. So.. 2 questions

1. why do she writes me almost every day, it's not about the talk, it's like to check me out what I'm doing or just to say 'hi' or sth

2. I want her to fall in live with me like in the beginning when I was flaking on her. Well we already have kino and some comfort levels, but I don't think that making out with an ex is easier than with normal girl. I mean that I must be more alpha than the other guy to let her chose me, and that's harder when she's already dumped you for being not-alpha.

I've tried small trick of reverse psychology when she talked about the guy that she currently likes (well maybe little before that). It was 'What's to have a perfect relationship?'. But she blamed herself for all the stuff of her boyfriend.

Man, it is very difficult to change...it takes a very long time. If she dumped you because of being too jelous, she will always think you are like that, unless you change that. Im a jelous guy, but I dont say it. Only when something really bothers me, then I say it.

My advice: If you like her a lot, if you really are in love with her, dont try to wn her back. Just wait for HER desition. Dont force her or try tricks on her. Just be yourself. If you force her, then she probably will come back to you, but It wont last long. Girls ALWAYS come back. Always. Just dissapear for a while.

Often when a couple breaks up one..... or in some case both who were in the relationship she the other as there "property" (which is the reason also why one gets jealous of the other) and with them seeing their partner as their "property" they feels they ned to keep tabs on them. This could be one of the reasons she is keeping in touch. Yet it could just as well be that she didnt want the split in the first place, thus she maybe trying to keep the door open for a future relationship.

I would suggest that no matter what happens though, dont get back with her (I can only give this advice from personal experience, therefore my own perspective). Whenever I have done got back with an ex all my old habits, and her old habits fall back into place... the habits that broke you up in the first place!!!! trouble is they seem so much more obvious the second time around and the bust ends up being nasty!!!! Like I say this is only my experience, just try and look at it from a logical viewpoint rather than being ruled by your cock or your heart!!!

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