Most people have the terrible habit of using the past as an excuse for their current behavior, thoughts patterns, identity or beliefs. This is natural and it is also a mistake. Your past does not keep you stuck and blocked. You keep yourself blocked with your empty belief that you are the same person you used to be. I hear guys saying “I am not very good with women” and when I ask them “How do you know that?” the answer is invariably the same: “It is my experience.” That means that he is looking into his past to decide the present and the future. The past is absolutely no indicator of the present and does not need to have any relevance to the future.

Can you walk? Were you born able to walk? Why is it that you didn’t give up on walking after a year of life? Why is it that after a year of trying to walk you didn’t give up on the whole thing and declare to the world “I can’t walk, walking is not me I’m just not a walker.”? As a one year old child you had a past that was full of evidence which tells you that you can’t walk but this does not put you off. You had not yet learned the “past equals the future” habit that is later installed by a beta producing society.

Another issue is that people are drawn strongly towards what is familiar. We all know that there are the twin poles of motivation; we move away from what gives up pain and towards what gives us pleasure. These are conscious decisions. On a much deeper level there is the unconscious programming that gives you all your habits and habitual thoughts, fears, expectations and feelings. This is the desire to move towards what is familiar and to run screaming from all things that are unfamiliar. What is the danger here? The danger of this habit is that this is the way to remain the same. This is the way to never improve and never change the amount of success that you experience in life. This is also the sheep mentality. With the sheep mentality you will only ever have experiences that the herd deems as safe and familiar.

Time to stop running from fear. Time to realize that fear is only a signal that you are doing something new and different. We are taught by the sheep mentality that fear means “ Stop what you are doing and run”. Perhaps you have become aware that fear can also mean “Pay attention and get ready to learn because something new is coming”.
VM

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Very nice. A good way of thinking is that you're wiping the slate clean with every woman you approach. You can't apply the past to every woman because each one is different.

i was actually thinking about this last week this is exactly what i wrote in my journal

"how can you set sail if your afraid of water??? Many AFC's are afraid of the approach for some reason being afraid to jump. I say what does it take to be daring a willingness to risk for a greater good? What's a risk?
It's like my OLD SELF (past self) if jepordizing the new me screaming to come out .... TELL THE OLD ME TO SHUT UP!!!!!!!!"

you have to be consciesly aware of why that little voice is their haunting you and come to grips with it saying i got it handled literally talk to the inner voice say i realize why you were designed but i dont need you not right now i can take care of myself if i need you i know where to get you

theirs a book on this kind of self talk its called FOCUS

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I agree. That voice is a part of you. It has a positive intention and does not want to be repressed. Things that get repressed get bigger. If it gets bigger it will be blown out of proportion. Chances are that this voice is already out of proportion.

Go inside and ask what the positive intention of this voice really is. What does it hope to provide you with? What resource does it hope to give you? When you have the answer, thank it kindly and think of ways in which you can better take heed of the positive intention. Satisfy the positive intention of that voice and you will find that the voice itself calms down and let's you get on with things.

VM

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