So I had an experience recently that lead me to some rather harsh experiences. I'm 100% positive that others have gone through it as well, especially the best of pua's out there.
Well after becoming an rAFC and a pua in training i've decided to make a decision to have a girlfriend. I figured; mystery had a girlfriend and he's an mpua. well anyways things didnt work out in the end and i ended up hurting myself and my inner game BIG TIME. I screwed myself over and beat myself up pretty much, but it lead to a brighter future and made me stronger.
During the breakup period, i had the following symptoms:
-Depression; insecurity
-Reverting to AFC habits
-one-itis
-feeling like a b*tch, loser, etc.
-deprivation from the lack of sex
-loss of confidence
Well my friends; if you have or had those feelings; and more, then have no fear because i'm telling you things WILL get better. Of course everyone has their different stories; the whole: you wouldn't understand because this girl is different" story, but believe in yourself and your INNER GAME.
Okay, a great place to start is to gather support:
Call your buddies and go out sarging; or a fun (preferably legal) activity that keeps your mind off of things. Trust me when i say spare time is horrible and will wreck you, your mind, and your inner game. Fill up your schedule, and keep your mind off of your depression.
"Fix" things with your ex before you have fun:
Call that B*tch and tell her you're done fuc*ing around. Honestly, end all ties with her and shut her out of your life: discard pictures, her numbers, everything that reminds you of her. It'll be painful to do but it will help you in the longshot. For some, it actually will be fun and easy. For others, you'll have a great satisfaction knowing that you are moving on and she is sobbing over the fact that you are moving on without her faster than she is moving on without you. I always find it hillarious that the girl you were crying over is now crying over you. But remember to be positive, and don't call her names or anything. Thank her for the great times, but make it clear that you moved on (do not say "i am, or will; say that you did) and that you are blocking off all ties.
After you "Fix" your ties with your ex, immediatley go out with your buddies!!! This is a key part as you will build a great bond between you and your close friends. I reccomend spending the night at a buddies place (unless you've picked up a girl while sarging).
Patching up your confidence:
This comes naturally if you spend time with positive people who keep your mind off of the drama. People have different results; but for me, i constantly remind myself that i am "The Man", and that if i practice my pua skills, women will LOVE me.
Well to sum things up remember that we are always here as a community to help you through this as well. breakups are a powerful tool for me when it happens, because it ironically pushes me to a much bigger level of pua skills that i've ever been at. it pushes me to strive and to be better. Breaking up is actually the reason why I was drawn into becoming a pua. Remember that we're young, fresh, and sexy in our own ways.
Break-up is a ho; so slap that bitch, and move on you pimp.
hope this helps,
-G.L
oh and btw please reply with ways you cope with break-ups and how you regain your inner game and confidence.
CHAT