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honestly this has been one of the most inspirational posts, bc i consider my self and for the most part a natural never really had any problems what so ever just got into this when there was a string of bad relationships usually the girl breaking up with me, but honestly man thank u for this post ive been waiting for a pua like this who doesnt use gambits, or tricks (which do work sometimes) but like u said its all about congruence and inner game which if was i was working on before i even knew others worked on it.
KEEP UP THE POSTING
Heh. Thanks. But I've gotta give credit where credit is due; I'm not the first guy to talk about this stuff. Not by damn sight. Like I said, I was heavily inspired by Flawless Natural, and dudes like Zan, David D, and Juggler have been teaching this forever. I'm just giving you all my take on it.
THE GOLDEN RULE OF NATURAL GAME
Pickup has a lot of rules. A lot of these rules are "number one rules" or "the first thing you should know." PUAs apparently aren't very good at prioritizing.
But seriously, the Golden Rule of Natural Game, as articulated by Alex~ of RSD, is this: "Whatever you feel, she feels."
So, you want that vibe that I've been talking about? You want an interaction to be flirtatious? Guess what: no set of lines or routines is going to do that. As some other Most Important Rule articulated by - umm... someone, I forgot who - states, this game is not logical. It is emotional.
That's right, EMOTIONS. Those weird feelings inside of us guys that we try to ignore most of the time in favor of our logical minds. Those things that we try to suppress in favor of a flowchart or IOI count.
Girls live in their emotions in the same way that fish live in water. It is their reality. Their desire to do the sex with guys is linked so tightly with their emotions that there's practically no difference between the two. Same goes for guys, by the way: your desire to sleep with girls is primarily an
emotional one.
Primarily.
There are certain instances where your drive to sleep with a girl is NOT emotional. This is where things can go horribly, horribly wrong.
EGO VERSUS INTENT
Why are you studying pickup? Why are you out in the field talking to people you don't know? It's because you eventually want to get close to a girl or several girls, right? Maybe you want to sleep with them. Maybe you want a relationship with one of them.
But why do you want
that?
Look inside and be honest with yourself about this. Are you doing this because you want more notches on your bedpost? Are you doing this because you want to "be an MPUA?" As in, for the title of "Master Pickup Artist?" (I've gotta stop with these digs on Mystery, it's unbecoming) For the adoration and respect of your lair-mates? The guys on this board? Your friends? To catch the attention of a pickup company so you can become an instructor? Are you doing this for approval and status?
If you are, then in the immortal words of Anonymous,
All of the reasons listed above are ego reasons. That's right, the ego. That evil, evil fucker inside your head that will mess you up any chance it gets. Your ego NEEDS approval. It NEEDS people to like you. It NEEDS you to not get blown out, because that would mean that people
disapprove of you. Therefore, it will explode any doubt you may have about a set going well before you go in and give you AA. It will convince you that the girl won't approve if you try to kiss her and give you escalation anxiety. It will try to convince you that you will fail. And it NEEDS you to listen to it in order for it to survive.
The ego is needy, isn't it?
And if you let it run your shit, YOU will be needy. And you can't have that.
HOW DO I GET RID OF THAT BASTARD?
Tolle. Also, by simply drowning it out with stuff you DO want going on in your head. Speaking of which, enough about this negative crap. Let's talk about where you
should be. In fact, fuck it. I'm gonna get you there RIGHT NOW.
SO WHAT SHOULD I BE FEELING?
In a word, horny. Start this video up and then let it play. Listen to it as you're reading. THIS IS IMPORTANT. It'll help you get into the headspace that you need to be in.
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"Hey, I'm me. I just thought you were adorable and I had to meet you."
Second, the first time when I read this thread, about a year ago, the video's you posted within the posts really helped me get into the vibe of the post. Please refresh, the link I quoted doesn't work (it's on the first page of this thread). If I find more wrong links, I will edit this post.
I also see that the beginning of the thread holds a different vibe than the end. For any new readers: start at the beginning, it's GOOD stuff (says me as an inexperienced nobody)!
EDIT: About a quarter of the video's you posted aren't working anymore. Your posts are very very very nicely written and thus very readable, but I find that the video's do add value to your posts. I would like to see them restored!