Hey Guys,

I would like some of your examples to be posted below on the topic dicussed of Standing Your Ground. Stranding Your Group prevents flakes on dates, plus being a push-over with friends and from girls.

Standing On Your Ground means you have established Self-Respect. Once you've established a strong self-respect and self-confidence this will leave you with better interpersonal skills and become a Leader.

Also, post any experiences that you've may encountered that makes you feel you've gained self-respect and respect from others. The more respect you have for yourself, the more people will want to be around you. Also, to note - you don't have to be a total asshole to get people to respect you - if you do then people will be more less likely to like you and return a favor if you need one.

Also, to note while you give your example - put something which you've gained or loss and maybe some insight of the result of standing your ground.

Example:

This one day I only had fifteen cents in my bank account. My friend which is around 27, likes the power-rangers. I personally think he should grow out of it. But however, that's not the point of this thread. So, he asks me if I could by something on eBay for him and that he would pay me back.l No problem right? Since I'm getting paid in acouple of days ago. Wrong! It's reasonable and understandable but however, it's not in a way because if I purchase this toy for him - it will automatically make my bank account negative and then hit with a fee up the ass. I told him a straight "No! I can't!" I explained to him why I couldn't do it! He insisted that I he'll pay me back and whined that he always pay people back, but if you look at it - he was entirely in emotional mind. He didn't listen, he just wanted me to buy it for him. I said, "No" and then gave him my reasoning. He gave up then I told him - com'on I'm gonna be out to smoke and he needs to leave. Pretty frustrated but able to cope.
I got done from smoking and he said, "I'm sorry...Can I still hang out with you in your apartment?" I said, "I'll have to think about it!" Showing him an IOD to reinforce my boundary and for him to learn of the consequences. I haven't decided when to talk with him but when he least expects it and does something good then I will show him IOI.

Now the example has to do with Friendship and having him respect me more. Don't get confused with the termology of IOD and IOI as a indicator of picking him up. PUA can be applied in many areas of your life - friendships, family, and bf\gf and even PET's. Believe it or not - The simple use of IOI and IOD will train a pet into doing what you want like fetch a ball. See? Not only PUA applies for picking up chicks.

The result of this example will have him not only over-step my boundaries and learn to listen when I say no.

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Hey stealth, I'm new to this forum and the whole PUA scene so wont be able to reply using the correct terminology to describe the incident but here goes.

A few years back when I was in my final year of college everyone had to give a presentation in front of the class. Not to blow my own trumpet or anything but since I was the best student in the class and the guy go-to if you needed any help I totally nailed the presentation and was understandably chuffed with myself.
Afterwards we were all just standing about chatting when on of the guys (the second best student btw) started giving me shit, it may have seemed like teasing but there was a undercurrent of maliciousness that was hard to ignore. I was having run-ins all year with this guy, not bullying as such but a definite attempt to devalue me in front of the class.
Usually I am the type of guy to roll over and take it , the classic example of the loser beta (currently working hard to correct this) and he though he'd get away with it.
Any other day he would have but I was feeling so good about myself , with my confidence through the roof that I wasn't going to take it. I just turned and went "UNNNNNHHHHH" at the top of my voice right to his face. It was a total spur of the moment thing and while it wasn't even a proper word it conveyed to him and everyone else in the room that I thought that he was a total retard and a first rate ass-hat. At that moment I had the confidence to to just express myself without giving a flying f@~k what he or anyone else in the room thought of me and amazingly (at the time) it worked. Everyone in the room just burst out laughing at HIM, seriously they were all in hysterics. One guy even slapped my on the back and congratulated me for putting Mr wannabe Alpha in his place. I embarrassed him so much that he ran from the room with his tail between his legs.
The thing I couldn't get over was the reaction of my other classmates to my rather uncharacteristic outburst. While not an overly popular guy per say, I got on well with everyone (excluding the aforementioned ass-hat).I think their reaction stems from a latent respect they had for me (i.e. something I knew nothing/possibly unconsciously ignored) and me throwing the shit right back into the face of the other guy kinda DHV'ed me in everyones eyes and justified their respect (or it could just be a case of me giving a wanker his comeuppance).

So thats my stand your ground story and the moral I took from it is that if you have enough faith and confidence in yourself it doesn't matter what crap/gibberish you spout, if you express it with conviction you can get away with anything. I am currently trying hard to regain that confidence but since I did it once I know that its definitely in there, I just have to harness it.