Alright it’s time for another post. Once again I was looking through the forums and read something that really got on my nerves. When it comes to confidence there are a few things that are a MUST!! I’m going to tell you how to walk, how to talk, how to sit, smile, and how to look someone dead in the eyes and make them love every second of it.
#1 Walking
First off when it comes to walking I read something on body language once that said something along the lines of: “Walk like you have a mission, like you have somewhere important to be.”. This my friends is total garbage.
For 8 years I was best friends with a natural named Deezy, I will admit that I’ve always been a slow walker, and I mean slow. But I swear this man was uber-slow he was never in a hurry.
One day we were walking into the Wal-Mart looking to do some PU. It was cold outside and I was walking at a normal rate of speed. I looked back and he’s still just taking his sweet ass time.
I said, “Deezy!! Are you nuts it cold as hell out here, hurry up!” and he said “Nope.”. I asked him, “Why the hell are you walking so slow for it’s 20 degrees out here retard?” and he simply replied “I’ve got to give the ladies time to get a good look!”.
That’s when it hit me! Slow your happy ass down! If your walking with extreme conviction, that doesn’t show confidence, it looks like your doing dirt work you hate behind a fake smile. I hope that made a little sense.
The point is slow down, I’m not going to get in any kind of hurry for anyone, I’ll do what I want at the speed I want. That shows confidence! Give everyone time to get a good look at what they could possibly be missing
#2 How to Talk
How to talk. Now this is something I’m sure I’ll get some heat over. Almost every book you’ll read on the subject will tell you to talk slow and in monotone so they can understand you and give you time to think of what to say.
I was actually having a debate in the chat room today about this, and someone said that to me. I disagreed, they said why do you think people get elected into government? My answer was “ because they know how to bullshit a bullshitter”.
The point I was trying to make is it don’t matter what you say or even how you say it as long as you act like you know what your saying.
#3 Sitting?
Excuse me did you just say sitting? Yep I sure did! And this is something that is overlooked quite a bit in my opinion. Now this is kind of a double knife so to speak. Your mood directly effects the way you sit, as well as the way you sit directly effects your mood. Sounds a bit odd don’t you think.
Well think of it this way. When you were in school and you were having a bad day how did you sit at your desk? With your arms folded leaning into your desk possibly with your head down? Did it make you feel groggy and sleepy? Maybe a little depressed even?
How about the day you decided to pay attention in class how did you sit then? Were you sitting a little straighter looking forward and taking notes instead of crossing your arms?
And how about when you were in class just having a good time talking to your friends? Were you leaned back in your chill mode legs and arms apart, laughing at someone in your Spanish class cause they said a dirty word?
Did you know that how you sit can directly effect the mood your in as well? If you don’t believe me give it a whirl trust me this is gold. If your feeling a bit down sit up a little more. Need to be more open with someone then lean back and have fun.
#4 Smiling.
The #1 thing you can do to make yourself look better and feel better and just all around seem more attractive is to smile a little more.
Yup you got it. People who smile have a lot more friends than those who are always bitching and in a bad mood that I promise you. Just don’t get weird with it. Having a joker smile plastered on your grill is just a little freaky.
But be careful, guys and girls think a lot different about smiles here’s an example: a girl sees a guy smiling she thinks to herself “He’s smiling he must be a nice guy.”, and if a girl looks at a guy and smiles he thinks “She wants me.”, guys this is just her saying “Hi, I’m friendly.” and is an invite to open her don’t get all weird with it.
#5 It’s all in the eyes!
I’m going to leave this out for an entirely separate post because so much could be said on eye contact. I could just write and write on the importance, and times to do it, and what it means at certain times, but that’s another story. I’m about tired now it’s almost 5 in the am.
Best of luck, and happy Sarging
Draven
CHAT