i used to be a 250lb kid about a year ago. fast forward. now im a 170lb college freshmen. i think ive gotten over that. but something else is holding me back a LOT..... my ethnicity. I am an asian american and i primaraly only find white girls attractive. yeah yeah. i dont know why but i just see them higher and untainable for some reason and in a sense "better". let alone picking them up, i can't even find myself to try and befriend them cause im scarred they won't want to associate with me. i think it might be the fact that i rarley see and asian white couples. plenty white guy/asian girl but not the other way around. i also find myself to tend and fall into that asian stereotype, quiet, not outgoing etc. like ill be outgoing with people i know pretty well. but im in college now, new people and i find it hard to be outgoing around these people that ive only known for a couple months. i need to just break out a live. no regrets.

eh.


wow. i just found the thread by Jaxin. maybe its a calling.

edit: just found the massive race thread too. jeez

Umm...STFU right now. I'm Chinese-Canadian and 220, that doesn't hold me back.
Dude...I LOVE all nationalities, thats just me though. But...race doesn't apply value- we're all the same. We're all just people no matter the skin color.
OK, I see 2 things here; 1st your cutting yourself saying your not the same value as them, 2nd your comparing yourself to others. 1st you gotta find out how come you think this- hell post it and I'll kick your ass .

On the 2nd, stop comparing- your good enough as you are- past all this stupid BS I'm sure your a chill cat. Fuck what you see, do what you want. This stuff isn't hard your just making it an HUGE issue.

Well your answer is there, sack up and do it. Let me say one thing though, there IS NO stereotype. Your just viewing it as that. Really..I know OF the stereotype but it is just humor to me, cause it doesn't exist. You can argue it does, it doesn't though...there are TONS of people who aren't outgoing social etc, not just asians.

As of getting out and being social; start by making eye contact with people in the street and hall, say "hi" to at least one person a day & ask the cashier or anyone "hows your day going?" , hell make it a game- it should be fun not work. This doesn't only apply to women this is EVERYONE. Its always the initial start thats tough- its like jumping off a cliff, once you start though its really easy.

PS: Only reason I'm going hard on you is because I use to think this BS; and I've been racially bullied on more than 3 occasions in my childhood. So really..its nothing for ethnicity

like, on my confident days i can talk to people. but i can't get past that small talk to something deeper. either it be being friends or dating or something. i also have problems enunciating and speaking with emotion to strangers. something that i really need to work on. i get tongue tied and my voice gets "tired"/ mumbly sounding.

Thats a totally different issue than what you 1st stated see . Theres nothing wrong with small talk- however if that's all your doing as your stating its bad.

1st; continue doing the "hi" and "how are you" to strangers while making eye contact- it'll feel weird at the start but you'll find alot of fun in it after. As of talking with emotion; talk about stuff that really gets to you- I LOVE watching Naruto- playing Age of Empires, working to improve myself everyday, Chinese culture, the arts in general, nature/animals, psychology/human development & ancient/miltary history. KNOW what you LIKE- I'm sure you have similar things. While your doing this; relate it to others, that's the key.

As of on mumbling, sing in the shower and start speaking from your diaphragm. You mumble because you don't want to be heard, or you do but you don't want anyone else to here you. By singing in the shower it lets your voice go up and down octaves and speaking from the diaphragm is MUCH more powerful than the throat.