I'm a complete mess at the moment!!!

I fancied this girl for ages... She was always play fighting with me and we would always have laugh and talking on the phone for hours!!!

I tried it on with her once and she told me she wasn't interested I was really gutted about it and found the game because of it!

I was in a really bad place and was really working on my game but we were still flirting with each other and I felt there was something there. I was speaking to one of my friends who told me to try again. So I did... And I had a fondle with her but everything over clothes and was very one sided (ie just me fondling). I was delighted as I came back from a really low point!

Anyway now she's moved back home after finishing uni and I met up with her after I went on holiday and told her I kissed someone on holiday. We were snap chatting and the conversation went: her: wearing my new jacket. Me: not wearing your new bag. Her: not big enough for sleep overs. Me: so have you got a girlfriend? Her: cos I have a girlfriend. Me: so have you got a boyfriend. Her: now now don't threat, why don't you text the girl you kissed on holiday.
So I rang her saying I didn't know how to interpret that and she asked me if I was staying in touch with her etc and she came across as being jealous. It made me happy as I thought that there was something there.

Anyway I found out she's now seeing someone and I basically confessed my feelings for her and she said she was never interested and never will be!!!

I'm literally devastated!!

I met up with her recently and we were walking down the street and she was constantly in my space, walking down the street with arms touching each other as we are walking, although there's plenty of room on the foot path, lots of pushing and her play punching me, I still think there is something there! All I wanted the whole time was to be with her but she's already said she's not interested
I don't get it!!!

So I got a little tipsy last night and made loads of approaches, I asked a girl at the bar for her number who I didn't especially find that attractive and didn't get a result

The other night I made an approach where the girl gave me the signals so I made the approach and went direct saying I thought she was cute and if kill myself if I didn't say hi. Anyway, she walked away.

I've been single for 4 years, had no action for ages... Why is nobody interested in me? I wouldn't say I'm bad looking or anything but I'm getting really upset that no one is interested in me!
I signed up to online dating and no one but munters are interested in me

I am really getting myself down!!

Any words/thoughts that'll cheer me up will be welcomed!!
Sorry for the bad English lol
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First of all congratulations for getting out there and approaching.

There are no shortcuts. You have a case of one-itus and u went out for a day or two and gamed and you're understandably frustrated that you haven't gotten action from that output.

Think of it this way though:

It's like a guy putting in an hour or two of batting practice one day then being upset that he didn't get drafted in the major league baseball draft.

You have to commit yourself to it.

First step is to approach, and then post here when you are running in to sticking points so that you can be helped out through the process. Second step is to forget about that girl.

You are approaching from a mindframe of lack and from an alcohol-induced standpoint. Face your fears and get out there, hit the streets or the clubs, sober or drunk (preferably sober or buzzed if you need to, but yeah preferably sober) and put in the work. There's no magic pill.

Keep your head up man there are plenty of women out there for you, you need to accept that fact and own it.

I was EXACTLY where you are right now. I was into a girl for a long time, and when I spilled
my heart to her she said she wasn't interested.

I was crushed.

And again, very similary to you, I tried going out, approaching women, lowering my standards more and
more just to get some action.

Anyhow, it took me literally YEARS before I got it...

The REASON why the girl I spilled my heart to wasn't interested in me...and the reason why all the other
women aren't interested in me was the SAME.

And that reason was that I wasn't ATTRACTIVE as a man. And I don't mean that in the physical sense.
I actually got quite a few compliments from women about my look...but once I opened my mouth
that interested just vanished into thin air.

What I mean by attractive as a man is the stuff that was going on INSIDE myself.

I was NEEDY, Insecure about myself and my worth as a man, felt women were somehow superior to me
and had this view of them as hot, attractive creatures who are unatainable to me.

I started working on myself, on my confidence, on my approach anxiety, on my skills of talking and leading
the conversation...

Fast forward to today, I came home the other day with like 6 phone numbers in my pocket, a lipstick stain
on my shirt, and one heck of a night.

Didn't have to drink.

Didn't have to buy drinks.

Didn't have to flash how much money I have.

It was just by being ME.

How did I do it?

Very simply put, I've developed myself into an ATTRACTIVE man. I've worked on my confidence, self
image, dealt with my insecurities and neediness and came to a point where I realized I am good enough.

So I recommend you do the same, and put yourself on the same path of self-improvement.

Start with your CONFIDENCE. With how you feel about yourself. Work on your insecurites. Work on
your neediness and anxiety about women.

And then go from there.

The way I can help you is invite you into a small test group of guys, to test my new Approach Anxiety
Cure technique, which eliminates your fear of approaching any woman in about 90min. It's not everything,
but it's a good start for you. Because being able to approach women is the starting point of success.

And you can take it from there.

Details on how to join the group are in my signature.

You can also read my thread on the inner game section of this forum, under
Get Confidence with women Hangout.

get-confidence-with-women-hangout-vt179793.html

I hope my story helps you to change and to take yourself to a whole new level in your lfie. Trust me, life
is WAY to short to be spending it in depression, worry or anxiety. There's much more to life.

Wish you best of luck!

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