| Hi,
I have problem dealing with people. In general, I mean with men and women too. It hadn't bothered me that much in the past, but now I feel the urge of doing someting to improve in this area as well since I have a lot of 'leak' in this part.
In the last past 4-5 years I didn't make any new friendship at all, and only 1 real friend I made. I have 3 very good friends that I can really trust and they can me as well. It's not easy for me to trust anyone 100%, but I would like to have some more friends in another cities or countries that I can throw up a party with.
The last example was my holiday.(again, its not the pua part, just social stuff in general!) I did my best and was very kind with people, I was aware not to be needy or anything,I used some friendly kino etc. Some of them I talked to a lot, max was like 4 hours in the beach, and most of them was like ~50min of communication. But none of them I could make any friendship. The following day we met most of them was almost unfriendly, they didn't want to talk/obviously the didn't say but I felt that clearly/ or do some activity.
So I see one of my friends who was there with me and I saw he was capable making some 'dude' there and after that they met and partied or went to the beach or any other thing. So I'm sure I did the wrong things so I want to educate myself (mostly) with a book because it seems like I'm very lost in this. Maybe I do something I shouldn't do, maybe I do some other thing incorrect, but its the worst that I have been that blind I can't even see what I do wrong.
It was almost the same in the gym, or mma training etc. In my mma class I had some good respect, my 'ground game' was one of the best in that class, it seemed training partners like me when I was in our 'gym'(I dont know the correct word for it), but they never invited me when they went out somewhere, and after my injury noone care about me anymore to send me a free message to get information how my shoulder feels.
And it not only bad in my private life, it is the same when it comes to my venture.
Can you guys recommend me a book I could get information and become better in this area? As you can see I have lot to work on, but I'm young and want to be better and better.
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