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It looks like you spent enough time to come to that conclusion. People like me that have never been successful with women don't understand you yet. The whole PUA thing is more like a path to self-realization. I hope that what I learn from this forum will allow me to become that guy that everyone strives to be so that one day I could also write how this is all bullsh*t and is not worth your time. So I would like to congratulate you for finally leaving this lifestyle; now let the rest of us learn from our mistakes by testing them out ourselves.
I think you have completely missed my point.
It's not that I'm saying that PUA doesn't work.
What I am saying is that doing anything related to PUA will bring you into a WORSE situation
than you were when you began.
The entire premiss of PUA "HOT GIRL - HOW DO I GET HER?" is wrong.
I am not saying you shouldn't work on improving yourself so you become good with women.
I am saying that you should discard the old premiss and take the new one.
HOT GIRL - HOW DO I FREE MYSELF TO EXPRESS MYSELF?
And further, I'm suggesting that the second premiss is FAR simpler, FAR faster, and FAR much more
effective way for you to start being good with women.
The way to get better with women is NOT to learn a bunch of PUA tactics and lines, which you all
love so much, but the way to get better with women is to look WITHIN yourself and work on
FREEING yourself.
So instead of seeing a girl and then submitting your behavior to mimic the behavior of other "alpha guys"... I'm suggesting that when you see a girl you ask yourself, "how do I free myself and express myself
at this moment?"
Here are some basic truth's that confirm that you know this is true:
> You can easily talk with ugly chicks but not with attractive chicks
> You can be "you" with people you know, but you go into your shell when you meet someone new
> You are very intelligent and expressive with your opinion about topics you like, but you sound like
a dumbass when you're talking with a woman
Rings true?
So where's the difference?
Why can you talk with a girl you don't find attractive easily, but with a girl you feel for you have no idea
what to say?
Why can you be yourself with people you know, but close yourself with strangers?
Why can you share and express your opinion in some places, but not in others?
To answer these questions, PUA has offered answers that are going to tell you the "How to..." on
all the topics you're interested in, from approaching a girl to "fuck" closing her etc.
But the PUA has never told you that you ALREADY KNOW how to do all of those things, and that the
real reason is in what you do INSIDE of yourself.
For example
So to go back to your comment.
NO, I haven't spend all these years in PUA to be able to tell you that it sucks. In fact, I spent a very
limited time in PUA and knew immediately it's not the way to go.
Where I have spent my time is in FREEING myself from my own prison, so that today I am able to
make NO DIFFERENCE between a chick I am really interested in, and a chick I am extremely interested in.
I don't choke.
I don't go in my head and start thinking what she thinks of me.
I don't run out of things to say when I start a conversation.
I don't try to hide the fact that I like her and that I want to ask her out.
Etc.
So good luck with yanking the latest PUA tactics, I am here for anybody who already has a hunch that
this PUA is b.s, and that there HAS TO BE ANOTHER WAY to dating women than this.
I am offering a path to personal FREEDOM that I believe every man deserves to have in his life, where
he is free to walk up to any woman, start a conversation, continue it and take it to the next level
with a phone number or a DATE.
I also belive that NO MAN should ever go through the humiliation of trying to fake his "value" or "high status"
just so he can get some pussy.
I think that doing that DAMAGES your sense of confidence, rather than enhances it.
Because, how can you feel confident with yourself, if you know that everything you do is to hide your
real personality?
So again, it's not that I'm saying that PUA sucks...I'm saying that it is the FURTHEST from what is going
to bring you ANY success with women.
PERIOD.
Here are the 5 steps to Freedom:
1. Go back to who you REALLY are. Connect with who you really are inside.
2. LET GO of the outcomes, neediness, insecurity
3. Expose your VULNERABILITY. Be OK with feeling vulnerable, let go of the need to appear strong all the
time.
4. Embrace and start enjoying the UNKNOWN. Let go of needing to KNOW what to say, how to say it etc.
Start enjoying not knowing.
5. Do, say and BE what you really WANT to do, say and BE.
Try focusing on those 5 key principles, copy them and put them on your wall and look at them
every day.
And even though you are just beginning, you will learn more by implementing those 5 things for
5 days, then studying PUA for 5 years.