I am brand new to these forums and am having difficulties with coming out of my shell and just saying f** it and saying what needs to be said to a girl. I believe that would have something to do with my inner game not being on the right dial. Anyhow, I am going to simplify my day today with this girl and if all of you more experience PUA's could chime in on how I could have improved in any area, than please feel free. All responses are welcome! Thank you all in advance. Now to the story:

Okay the last couple of weeks it has been snowing and me and this cute girl who I am kind of friends with (we are both part of the same major so we are in the same classes together) were talking about building a massive snowman. Haha strange I know but it was one of those things where people get to talking and an interesting idea, no matter how inflated it may be pops up. In the process I am flirting with her, using banter and negging appropriately. She was definitely digging me. Only problem for me at least is that she has a boyfriend. So today she texts me and shes like we should make a snowman. Old me (less confident me - (I've been more confident now adays because of these forums, reading up on seduction and other factors) would have said no. So I was like yeah were doing this today be ready and she was so taking back by it because I would have gave some lame excuse to get myself out of it. Fastforward a bit, so we meet up at my school because she holds a job there. She gets off work, we meet up and we start talking about dating (not her and I) in general, her boyfriend and our plan of attack to make our snowman. I suggest we head up to the roof so that we could make a massive snowman that everyone can see from the ground and so we could be alone. Literally we made what was the crappiest snowman ever haha, which turned into a penguin, chicken, coyote, panda and then I finally said, you know what lets just make a heart for valentine's day. So we did. A few times throughout our discussion inside and snow crafting outdoors I kino'd appropriately but I felt like it wasn't enough. My biggest issues though were lack of eye contact/smiling - I did smile frequently and have eye contact but not as much bc I was focusing on the snow art. I definitely bantered but it always wound up turning into a negative statement (ex. she would be like why does this snowman look this way? me: b/c were making it - I guess I should have negged her and blamed her?). This pissed me off because lately I have solely been focusing on the positive and even had girls tell me your so confident and positive, when I know that in the past that was never the case. Something else that bothered me was at times she would be sitting on the ground and the sunset orange, yellows and reds would dance across her face and eyes. I wanted to say to her that she looked beautiful but I couldn't even do that. Finally we decided on making a heart. I hate to get sentimental on everyone but it was truly romantic with the sunset and everything. The exact type of thing you would think a girl or girlfriend would love on a date. As we walked down from the roof I gave used DHV of a story that happened to me earlier in the week. This girl was getting attacked or hurt by her boyfriend in a stairwell at my school and I ran after him. I heard the girl start to cry so I ran after him but he got away. I consoled this girl and asked if she needed help getting back to her car or if she needed me to have a word with her bf. She just sat there and cried as I held her. This was a true story btw. She was focused more on the story than my quality as a man I felt like. Right after her bf called her and told her she was coming to pick her up. We hugged as I stared her in the eyes and told her I had a great time with her. She hugged me longer than usual.

Pros:
Eye contact (although sometimes limited)
Used banter (although sometimes limited)
Long hug
Romantic set-up

Cons:
Limited Kino
Constantly negative statements
No escalation to sexual heights


In the end I guess she just treated as a friend to her and she got that emotional support that she needs. I feel like this is how most things go with girls and myself. I need advise on how to break this cycle, maybe even stop being so nice. I don't want to be an a** to girls but I do want to have a girlfriend or a sexual partner and right now it is looking bleak. Please help!

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