| I'd like to address a fine line that a number of people seem to naturally fuck up at: Dominance.
What's on your mind when you think of a dominant man?
You think that masculine man who people follow, the leader of the pack, the man men look up to, the man YOU, look up to.
Am I right? Yes? Good because that means you're wrong so sit your ass comfortably and keep reading.
I've come to realize that people tend to get the term Dominant and Domineering severely twisted with each other. The problem with this is that people don't clearly define within themselves which is which, they may know the definition of both, but understanding and enacting are two different things.
So let's start with Domineering.
Let's be straight and honest, you tell yourself 'Be dominant' but you sit there feeling like you have no control because the group isn't wrapped around what you want to talk about or what you want to do.
Someone put you down with a cute little insult the group laughs and you're the butt of the joke, you're dominant, you remind yourself and retort back, maybe even let it slide and just kind of chill in your chair.
Shit, let's go as far as; you're at a friends, they want you to give them a ride. But dude, you're gas isn't free but..you can't say no..cause you know..they might not want you to tag along or come over anymore :L
If you're reminding, chanting, even demanding yourself to be dominant, then you're not dominant.
Get to the point already?
Chill we're getting there. Why are people domineering when trying to be confident.
It's simple, they have the wrong mentality.
Although it's all in good nature to be a dominant man you've got to realize that there are so many things you cannot control and when you do you're not going to succeed.
By trying to control, you attempt to manipulate and bend to your will and when you can't you refer back to not being dominant enough.
Before you "naw G I don't try to control" BULLSHIT. Don't play that, you read this far down. And besides that, you're a Pua you're goal is to elicit emotions from a girl. The difference depends on the way one PUA evokes those emotions from their target with dominance, and the other who fucks up and calls themself, dominant.
Check your package, if I haven't busted your balls and you've still got em then lets move on to being dominant.
The key thing about being dominant instead of domineering is what you maintain. You.
You know what is fun for you and you do it.
This bastard just said your hairstyle sucks? EEHH wrong move, you just lost the only time of day this Alpha gave you.
Ok, the point is stop trying to be in charge of what is around you. That is by far the most off-putting insecurity display that there is.
Yes, insecurity because when someone tries to control their surroundings and it negates on them it's obvious they person is affected and trust me there's no better way to end up with a submissive HB2 that likes you for your insecure personality than by being a domineering jerk.
So focus on YOU
You're concentrating on your direction in YOUR reality, your here & now
You're moving toward what you want to do, what seems like fun, what seems like a great use of YOUR time.
Satisfying your curiosity.
Chasing after that desire.
What's more attractive to a woman than a man who knows what he wants?
Than a man who laughs and smiles cause he has his shit together.
Than THE man who will pass something up because it's not beneficial to his day or goals or wants?
You walk with your own direction and path. You control your frame, your mindset.
What this does is sends out a vibe. People feel good around the dominant male because of the vibe he sends, not what he says but because being around him gives people.
People respect the Dominant male because the message he conveys is true about what he feels and who he is.
Being a dominant male means having a pair.
A dominant male accepts everyone and denies what is against his belief.
If the dominant male believes something is wrong/right he stands up for it, he is defending his belief, if the person is offended by your opinion then they can deal with it.
The dominant male giveth and taketh.
When someone(s) becomes a part of your day you give them that time of day.
Joke, laugh, seduce, excite, whatever. For coming into YOUR frame you selflessly gift them with a reason for them to feel that emotion. Whether it be a smile, a joke, arousal, whatever it may be. The Dominant male giveth.
But he also Taketh
When someone is acting in a way you don't appreciate you take away the time of day you would've given them until they straighten up. The best reward you can give to bad behavior is your attention, you don't give bad children what they want, that's not how they learn.
This is why people follow the Dominant male. He has his shit locked tight. He knows who he his, what he wants, and where he's walking to (slowly) He doesn't care if you follow him or do what he wants because in the end it's just whatever to him.
He is followed because he doesn't offer up who he is for validation. But for those who do follow him gain from his vibe, gain from the experience, gain value.
Be a dominant male; balance who you are with what you want.
I'm done, it's late, goodbye.
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