Hey guys,
It's been brought to my attention that we have some members among us that don't understand beliefs and how they effect your life and world.

Most people don't understand the role a set beliefs plays in life and how they effect abilities in life and especially with women.

Beliefs are pretty simple but a lot more in depth than people realize.

Here is a Story:

A bit of time ago scientists were out to prove a substance to be bad. This substance they said it's bad and we're going to prove it... This was their experiment.

They burned the substance and pumped it into an air proof mask they strapped to a monkey. The monkey died in 20 minutes.

They believed that it was because of the substance that the monkey died. Now if you burn ANYTHING and strap that as it's only means for "air" to an animal's face it's going to die of suffocation. The substance had nothing to do with the death of the monkey.

They however believed this was proof of their beliefs... this experience showed THE TRUTH.

Now we know in retrospect the experiment was awful and to say the least set up to "win". The reason I bring this up is it's the greatest example of how beliefs can color your perspective. This wasn't an experiment where they were neutral.

This is how our mind works often. We believe something and thus it must be true and everything proves it to be true.

Well now let’s look at beliefs in our own lives and how they influence us.

I've talked to several guys and they said "what should I say to a girl?"

"Talk to them like you would a friend. Say whatever comes to your mind."

"But it's different. I can't talk to a girl like that."

^ Oh k can you spot the belief?

"I can't talk to her she's too hot. I have to show more value."

"I have to build attraction."

This is a few beliefs that effect a lot of guys here and it's simple. It's all in your mind, most of us will tell you it's all a mindset, or your frame, or your confidence. They're all trying to allude to the same overall idea. "I can't" with women.

The reason that these beliefs are such huge issues are because they assume "you're short on something." You assume you're "playing from behind" in a way, or you don't have enough value for a woman.

^This is a big issue with guys here in the community. Low self-esteem is undoubtedly one of the biggest issues around a pick up forum, and being driven by the ego is highly related and right there with it. Low self-esteem is a combination of several beliefs, but one big underlying core belief: I'm not valuable.

Oh k now that is one way beliefs hurt you. Let’s look at another way far more related to the ego.

"I'm perfect."

"I can't be wrong."

"I'm never wrong."

"You're speaking nothing but bull shit."

"I'm right and you're wrong."

^ These beliefs are another set of problems that are on the opposite side of the spectrum. You are arrogant and you simply don't realize it.

For these guys they see something work 1-10 times and that is the ultimate truth and works every time. The only reason it didn't was bla bla bla for the other 9 times it didn't work. Never mind the fact that you're not even beating a coin flip for 50-50.

So what you see is how beliefs can affect you on either end they can screw you by over valuing yourself and making you look like arrogant ass (as has happened to me and several others). Or you can undervalue yourself and not feel you're worthy of anything.

Oh k so now the question is so what should I believe?

Well for 1 that's not up to me but here are a few thoughts I have.

You should believe you are as good as anyone else in this world as a person (not your value to society). This isn't related to social statuses but know you are fucking awesome.

You're not going to be loved by all, no matter how awesome you are you're not going to be everyone's cup a tea.

You're going to be wrong and it's ok, it's fine, this doesn't lower your value simply another lesson you learn.

Who you are isn't your beliefs, it's not you're a carpenter, pick up artist, seducer, you're not anything but the creator of your world.

Now what do I mean by this?

There are things in our world we create and things we don't. We obviously don't create gravity as creators of our own worlds. However we do create our own set of "I can't"s and "I can"s ... this is what I mean by the creator of your world. You set your limitation, you set your value, you set your abilities.

You create your own world because if you believed you could do something (we're not talking about flying guys lets be real here) you can. If you believe you can go on to accomplish amazing feats you will, if you don't you won't. If you believe you have the value and deserve such a thing you'll live in such a way. Our beliefs are our own personal programing we tend to live by on a subconscious level.

If you have an underlying belief that you're not good enough you're going to sabotage things you get that are great. If you have an underlying belief that you don't deserve something you'll fulfill that belief. You'll sabotage or you'll never give yourself a chance.

It's really easy to gain a belief like this too. Now our parents did their best to raise us but we as people interpret experiences and give them value.

When you were a kid you may have went to the store (and this is before you may even remember) and asked for a candy and your Mom says “if you’re good”. Well you're a kid and in a store you want to do your own thing. You misbehave and then when check out comes you ask for your candy and your mom says something like "you don't deserve it." or "you weren't good enough." etc. So a little kid doesn't always realize it's because he misbehaved... he forms this belief: "I'm not good enough" or "I am undeserving".

Now this is merely an interpretation of experiences, something we did as children, and do as adults. This wasn't "the truth" about us as kids simply “a truth” about the moment.

So what is up with this beliefs and all this you're talking about?

Well the key is to CHANGE your beliefs so that you can have the world YOU want.

If you want to be able to talk to girls, then believe you can talk to girls.

So how do you change your beliefs? Well there are more than a few tactics on this however I'm going to recommend this one.

First self-discipline... use self-discipline to create habit.

Step 1: Every day Say your belief as an affirmation for 3 minutes. If you want to talk to women. Then every day say for 3 minutes I LOVE HOW WELL I TALK WITH WOMEN not something like I can talk to women... create a derivative of it that shines the opposite way. However you have to say it like you believe it, keep saying it until you believe it... do this for at least 30 days.

Step 2: ACT AS YOU WOULD WITH THAT BELIEF. If you want to believe you can talk to girls then you must act as you would. This means talking to women because you love talking to them. Keep doing this everywhere until it's habit.

There are no excuses, there is no "but" no “I would but” or any of that bull shit. YOU MUST FOLLOW THROUGH AND ACT THAT WAY so that you can establish the behavior and belief so that it is a part of your "programming".

Apply habit through every moment in conscious thought until the behavior becomes unconscious competence.

Seems simple enough right? Well good go out and do it.

Do not take on more than 2 beliefs in your first month... and never more than 3 as this is too much conscious behavior change and it will mean you forget your beliefs.

You must live as if the belief is true... most important you must realize YOU ARE NOT YOUR BELIEFS but you are the CREATOR OF YOUR BELIEFS...

If you want to be good with women I don't recommend "I am a pick up artist" I recommend something more along the lines "I'm attractive, women appreciate me, and I'm good with women." (this fits my diction do it in YOUR own words not mine) This is a combo belief that will establish more of a blanket belief. Remember though you need act in that way which means you're going to dress attractive, have body language that is attractive and talk to women as an attractive male. You have to behave in that way!
Enjoy your new world!
Peace and Love,

Vic

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Going to try this. Do you say it like mantras or do you say it , argument it for yourself why you are right then read the second for example argument. then 1st second etc etc.

If you'd like you can when you develop the belief start with you can ask yourself these questions:

What is my current belief?

Is this belief adding quality to my life?

How is this belief taking quality from my life?

What belief would add quality to my life?

Why is my new belief true? (look for a new perspective, and signs that your new belief is correct... however if you are struggling to see how your belief is true then post in here and I'll help you.)

When you say the belief though you say it like an affirmation but saying it like a mantra isn't bad either, they are pretty related the way I want you to say them. The key is the passion and energy you put into saying it.

Hope that helps... if you have anymore questions ask.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Recording your self on a cell phone recording app is good too.. Just record the belief you want and keep listening to it .

I get it. I just read them and while reading them i reflect on based events why its true or argument it for myself. i feel it is true if and im enthousiastic about it. thanks for the info!

If I am infront of the mirror, I can convince myself, that loosing weight shows results (actually I know that is slowly and a little bit) and that I am looking awesome today. But all this belief, which is my only and most important for my inner game, is destroyed if I see myself on pictures and Videos. How do I hold this belief everytime while keeping honest track of my progress?

Help would be really appreciated!

That would be good for going to sleep, but that doesn't take away the fact that for 3 minutes you should say it like it's true.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Yeah you must feel it and that is the goal... if you have anymore questions go ahead and ask

Peace and Love,

Vic

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It's important you know your long term goals. I believe you should know your goal have a picture of what you want your body to look like. Then you have something to shoot for.... An important part of accomplishing anything is knowing where you are going and what it is you want. When you look in the mirror daily picture your body MELTING into that new body and the weight just melting off.

When it comes to weight loss I would focus on the catalyst for weight loss.

Focus on believing YOU LOVE working out.

Believe you love eating healthy.

And we know the combination of the two adds up to weight loss.

Stepping on the scale every week should be enough to convince you of your progress.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Thanks. Will try it for sure!^^