I'm new to the whole pick up thing, and really dating for that matter. I'm slowly but surely improving, but one challenge I still have trouble with is that I become obsessive over girls... you could call it oneitis. For example I've been dating this girl for about a month currently, and we've had a bit of trouble recently. And... it bugs the shit out of me, to the point that I can't focus at work because I'm worrying over whether things are going to work out. *That* is a big no no for me and a very big problem. I have a high paying corporate job, working mostly with F500 execs, on top of that, my company is paying for me to do grad school on the side. Any tips for how to put women at the back of my mind when I'm not actually out on a date or picking up?

For me, it's easy.

Date with more girls.
It's weird but it works for me and for most men, when you have a fight the best thing you could do is to ignore her.
But it's hard when you keep thinking off her and that's why you should have more girls, when you have a fight with 1 just ignore her and talk to the other one.
Date with the other one, just give attention to the girls who are nice to you because they deserve it.
Even if youre doing wrong, fuck that. Youre a god, she will respect you more because you've just shown her that you can do just fine without her. And NEVER but NEVER admit youre wrong.

I think you're half right; for younger women you can ignore them, but older ones you have to at least be sensitive to the situation/your actions; a real man isn't afraid to admit when he's wrong, or to apologize for, and own, his mistakes. It's a fine line.

OP - I was in the SAME (and I mean EXACT FUCKING SAME) boat you were in and it took me a while to fgure this out. Like everyone else will tell you, the only way to get past this is to date other women at the same time. When you only have one option (date one woman) everything rides on that person. It's like you're a store, and she is your ONLY customer - without her, your store fails, but if you have more than one customer, you don't worry about that one customer no longer shopping with you. Get it? This enables you to relax and, and have fun.

You ever hear the expression, "pussy comes in waves"? Have you ever thought about what that means? Some guys say it's because of your "girlfriend cologne," where as soon women see you with a girl, they start to want you b/c you're "desirable now." I think it's because when you have one girl, you're more relaxed around the rest of them; you already have a girl, so if girl B flakes on you, you don't care. This feeling of freedom lets you "be you," and have fun, which in turn, attracts more women.

I'm doing exactly this and things are MUCH better for me.

I'm assuming you work for Bain BCG, or McKinsey. I'm surprised you have enough time to worry about girls. If I were you, I would scope out skeezers in the hotel bars and pick up waitresses close to the hotel. I'm sure you spend lots of time on customer location, so most of the females you see will be mostly off limits.

Imagine your interactions with girls as lighthearted.
This used to be a serious problem of mine. Just view your interactions with girls as just an enjoyable way to get to know someone. If she's not interested, don't take it to heart since you didn't lose anything near and dear that you value.

It's just about letting go of your ego. Read this and internalize it.
I've read it through about 3 times but only on the third time reading it did I take it to heart and it really helped me out.
Good luck man

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