So, lately I am hanging out with very colorful bunch of friends ranging from geeks to alpha "rednecks." The geek spectrum of the group is usually lower energy, some of them can handle girls (sort of) but they will probably bore to death (alienate) outsiders with their insider geek themes.

Few, two to be exact "alpha" guys are extremely high energy and are really heavy on self-entertainment and they are naturally doing everything they can to stick out wherever they are, mostly by singing songs that are totally inappropriate for environment. Like, we are mostly hanging out at rock/metal places and they are immensly entertained by singing some hardcore hillbilly folk stuff that makes everyone go "wtf??" So, they have some success with women, though one of them (superhigh energy one) would be able to bang anything that walks by if he wasn't very complicated and emotional.

Long story short, I like hanging out with them because I want to reach their levels of energy and self-amusement, so here are my questions.

I am waaaay too often in spectator mode, therefore also way more reactive then proactive. Do you have any tips (literature/vids/whatever) on how to go from spectator into entertainer mode and reach that kinda intensity and energy?

Do you think it would be wise to pull random girls (sets) into the group, since most certainly quite few of them will often get shocked by my buddies insanities and if I am aiming for specific girl that will probably ruin a seductive vibe unless i isolate her?

Ty.