I dont know why im always wondering if "that" girl would be a good girlfriend. And if we hook up/go on a date i treat her like a girlfriend. Why is that? I think it some way of not wanting her to feel like im using her or have an agenda (to be a gentleman), an get sex easier that way. But that strategy caused me seven years of realationship with girls I just wanted to have sex with.

Where is this belief rooted from? (why im I so afraid of showing my intetsions?)
How do I get rid of if?

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"You only live once, but if you do it right once is enough"

"If it's important to you you will find a way, if not you will find an excuse"

I mean its not bad to have a true relationship with a girl... hell thats what some guys on the forum are just looking for.. it just depends what kind of relationship you want... LTR, friends with benefits, no strings attached, etc. and you should make a statement of interest/intent.. when you're with her so that she know you see her as a gf, or sleep buddy or whatever .

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Its more than JUST picking up women ........ its picking up a LIFESTYLE.

How do I do that without upsetting her? It feels like if I tell her and she walks away then I have wasted time and possibly getting sex.

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"You only live once, but if you do it right once is enough"

"If it's important to you you will find a way, if not you will find an excuse"

You feel like that because deep down you have never relinquished the idea of women as delicate flowers, i.e. the assumption that a girl will only give up her precious virginity when the man of her dreams carries her over the doorstep. This idea is patently untrue. Women enjoy sex as much as men, and while some may be looking for love, others are just looking to get laid.

There is nothing wrong with wanting nothing more than sex, and your strategy is actually counterproductive in getting what you want. The way you treat a girl is a signal that she will pick up, and that will eventually determine what will be the outcome of your interaction. It is unlikely that you can completely hide your true intentions, which means that it is likely you come across willing to do anything for sex, i.e. as desperate, which is very unattractive. But even if you can completely hide your lust behind the pretense of love, it does not serve your interests because it does not signal what you actually want. Signaling clearly, but without being too blunt, is the best strategy to get what you want regardless of what it is.

EDIT: You ask how you would say this, the answer is: you don't. You communicate through actions and body language. If the subject comes up in conversation, just say you enjoy being single and are not looking for a relationship right now.

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

I get what your saying, but I dont know how to feel comftarble with makeing my interaction clearly about a ONS?

I also have the problem of almost "falling in love" with every random girl that I somewhat connected with. But the problem with those girls are that I dont want an ordinary realtionship, I just want to hang out with them, have fun and being free to hook up with other girls. How do you tell them that?

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"You only live once, but if you do it right once is enough"

"If it's important to you you will find a way, if not you will find an excuse"

who cares

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You should love with another because that is how love grows, or you would be in love with every girl you meet. Thats human nature is to be loving.