I recently was in a situation where I knew this girl liked me from her body language, but she also liked another guy. This other guy is more charismatic, funny and alpha male than me...he is actually a tour guide and I met her on this tour/camping trip in australia (So I think he has a huge advantage because it is his job to be in charge of the group...in a way I think it is fake alpha maleness i think, and even his jokes I think he probably reuses from tour to tour...anyway, i digress)

So she was showing interest by texting me to come out on her last night. I was out the night before with her but reacted badly to some of the alcohol so felt like shit that night and the next day (I have an intolerance or allergy to certain alcoholic drinks...need to get allergy tested for this). So anyway I was on the fence about coming anyway and then when I heard the tour guide was coming I backed out.

I just couldn't take it if she went home with him that night after showing interest in me. I wouldn't just be disappointed that she didnt go home with me, but I would actually be really depressed that she chose him over me. And kind of pissed off too that she showed interest in me at all. And I don't even fancy her at all really.

I don't think this is normal and I think I must have some issues, but I have no idea what issues I have. Anhyone experienced this before?

Let me tell you a story about a friend of mine.

This was a couple of years ago now. I'd just introduced my friend to The Game a few months before. I'd taught him a bit about kino escalation and shown him a couple of routines. He was out with his work collegues, one of which he really liked but didn't know that well.

I took him out the night before, ran him exactly what he should do step by step, from where to sit, what routine to do at which point in the evening, when to start kino, how to escalate, everything.

So the next day I ask him how it went. "Awful!" he said. He did everything I said exactly what I told him, and "it was going really well until I was supposed to kiss her! The moment didn't seem right and the next thing I know, she's on the dance floor kissing some other guy she only just met!"

I was like, what? You know what happened? He got her aroused, she was wanting to be kissed and when he got scared and gave up, the next guy to hit on her received her with a really high buying temperature. He did everything right until that point then lost her.

The moral of the story? The girl didn't choose the random guy over my friend, my friend backed off and she wanted to continue.

Your situation is similar. If she went home with him after showing interest in you it's because you failed to make a move. In these circumstances what do you think goes through a girls head? She's shown interest in you and you have, from her perspective, backed off. This makes her suddenly feel incredibly insecure and self concious: "What did I do wrong? Why doesn't he like me? Am I too ugly for him?" all this crap. This works well during the attraction stage because it makes her chase you, but once she's into you and you've started escalating, doing this can be very dangerous. If she did go home with the other guy after being interested in you it's more than likely that she needed validation. What can fix those "am I too ugly? Am I inadequate?" thoughts for her? Attention from another guy.

So don't be depressed and disappointed about it, and don't think she "chose him over me". She didn't, you weren't there and appeared uninterested in her.

With that attitude you might aswell not even go out anymore.

Here is the deal: the best competition you can put up with another guy it`s actually not compiting at all.

The trick? Game guys into believe you are compiting against em, when you actually aim to seduce the girl and actually do so. Do not feel threatened by any other male, even if he is the most alpha guy on the venue; I won`t give up my ground if the guy comes to steal my set.

He`ll met an oponent, and one hell of an opponent. Same as sarging, meeting cockblocks and guys trying to steal your set is part ofthe game. Embrace the experience, move out of your comfort zone and try to do all you can in order to disarm the distraction.

How can you expect to get better and not being tested by other guys? I`m sure that every step closer of becomming a real pua you are, the more jelous betas will come to give you bullshit. It`s your job to disarm those intentions.