This is not restricted to pua, but life in general

I'm having problems with choosing which personality traits to keep and which to suppress.

One is the more masculine, "I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks, I'm just gonna do what I want and have fun"

The other is sensitive, soft, tactful, empathetic and emotional.

I wouldn't know how to combine the two and seem to more often default to the softer side.. Which pisses me off. I'm a little scared of hurting people's feelings and don't want to miss opportunities to connect with people by being aloof.

I'd prefer to be masculine 90% of the time, but I hold myself back because I'm afraid that I'll be treading on people's toes in the process and that people will think of me as a one-dimensional man.