So lately I've been depressed, angry, irritable, and basically a dead person with a heartbeat. I've decided that its time for me to make some changes. I started out by decided what I WANT, and then figuring out what it is going to take to get there.

WHAT I WANT: Confidence in myself in every aspect of my life. More specifically right now is to become confident and at ease in the presence of women. I want to have OPTIONS when it comes to women.

HOW I'M GOING TO DO IT:
1. NO-FAP - I've decided it's time to kick that habit that i've been addicted to since I was about 12 years old. It may seem obvious but I'm kicking the porn away as well. I have loved watching porn and realized that it was doing nothing but crippling my life.
2. Daily Exercise - I've done this before and really saw the confidence in myself as well as could notice that other people notice it was well.
3. Daily Meditation - I feel like this is the best way to center myself and feed off of energy from the universe rather than the people who are living around me as I have for so long.

Those are the 3 ideas I came up with to turn my stagnant boring life into a life worth living. If anyone has any personal stories or suggestions please post them! I'm not only doing this for myself, but for others who have been in similar situations because I know how bad it sucks. I'll try to give weekly updates and let you guys know how it goes and look forward to hearing from you guys.

NoFap is great, I'm doing it too, but I'm not really doing it because I expect to be a chick magnet. I'm doing it because porn is actually a really terrible thing. But anyway, don't expect to wake up one morning after a day of not jacking off and feel surging with confidence, ready to go out and talk to all of the hottest bitches. If you keep waiting for that day, it will never come.

If you want to get with a lot of girls, you're going to have to just approach them. Working out, not jacking off, and meditating won't help you with that.

But I wish you the best of luck, as I am just starting out on a similar journey and have terrible AA.

Good luck!

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Yah I understand that I'm going to have to approach them, but I'm hoping this helps. Buying the ingredients to make a meal isn't going to cook it for you.... but yet you need to buy them in order to be able to cook it, if that makes any sense lol. I'm hoping that through trying to better myself in a couple aspects at a time that I can become who I want to be and hope that women see this

I have one question about your post: What do you mean by "daily exercise"? Could you be more concrete about that?

I also want to comment on the rules you imposed upon yourself. The rule about masturbating is redundant.
I don't think that you'll be able to stop jerking off from one day to another. It's almost impossible considering you have been a porn addict for such a long time. You'll end up breaking your own rule which will have a negative effect on your self-esteem (which in the end is bad for your mindset). You should take it easy! Jerking off once a week should be okay and normal. That way you can grow and harness your sex drive without suffering too much. Don't watch any porn however! If you do, you'll revert to old habits. You don't want that.

I can't see how meditation should help you gaining confidence. If you want to build up your self-esteem you need more than that. Apart from that, I think it's good that you finally dedided to change something about your life.

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By daily exercise I mean hopefully hitting the weight room for an hour but on the days I don't feel like it at least going for a 1+ mile run. I'm not overweight or anything I just feel like exercising daily really makes me feel good, whether it be running, lifting, playing basketball or whatever.

With the no fap I planned on jacking off maybe once a week if I couldn't get sex from a girl but If I can then I don't really see any reason to fap. I'm on day 5 now and last night I brought a chick home and tried to fuck but was too damn drunk and couldn't get it up lol. That was something that I would never do because I know I could pleasure myself. Now I realize that I can't, and it really does make you more heads up and pay attention to signs the girl is showing and helped me take advantage of it.

If you haven't tried meditation I certainly recommend it to you. I've got good natural game and confidence when I'm not in my head too much, and when I meditate daily it really takes me out of my head and helps me to just be me.

I hope I cleared somethings up for ya, and I appreciate the support!

If you want to become more confident with women there is one thing you should definitely do: Approach as many women as possible i.e. whenever you see a beautiful girl on the street or in the club you should go and talk to her. That way you get used to being around beautiful women.
It'll help you building confidence. Don't think that you'll gain more confidence towards women through sport. That's not the case. It'll only help you building up your self-esteem but it won't improve your game.

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