Few days ago I sarged with this guy new to pickup. He was asking me about what works, what doesn't and I really started going back and thinking about it. I never actually thought about what I did to get better but now that I was asked I wanted to see for myself. I started looking back at my diaries from the CHODE days and just going over thoughts experiences and here is what I found.

The only way you will Ever get good with girls is if you take massive action and step out of your self image. At one point of my life I was stuck in this self image I had of myself. I though I am like James Bond, good body language check, girls should approach me check, I am beyond going up to a girl during day to chat her up check (because if i get rejected, it's totally not me) check. Many people like this are stuck in this mindset that they have of themselves. Doing something many times over a long period of time puts one in a self-image. He might think he's introverted, he might think he is not so funny, he might think he is funny, but he doesn't really believe he's something other than what he is. People like to stay in their comfort zone because it makes them feel safe. People are afraid of learning that they are something other than what they thought they're.

I really started to become better extremely fast when I went out of my comfort zone. Whenever I used to have this fear of approaching girls I just did it, went against the current. If I felt anxiety in my belly before approaching I would stop in front of a bar and do push ups on the floor in front of everybody. I would dead embarrassed after but I was proud to have stepped out of my comfort zone. Once I did that my heart started to pump and i started feeling very at ease. That night I would approach so many sets I even lost count. That night I also got a makeout with a girl who was like WOW a def HB 10. After that night I obtained a new Identity. Before I though a guy like me pretty good looking is above doing pushups on the floor in front of everybody and embarrassing himself but now I am that guy who can do that and not give a fuck(it doesn't have to be push ups, it has to be something you're not comfortable with). The next night I went out I did even more uncomfortable things for me. And so on and so on. And that's how I grew. Soon enough I started going out myself without wingmen and new obstacles started to approach me. I started feeling anxiety approaching sets of 3 by myself. But by now I already got used to doing things out of my comfort zone and it was a piece of cake.

Guys if your not having the success you want step out of your comfort zone. That is the only thing that will make you good. Take massive action. Redefine yourself. Don't let your past experiences define you. Feel the fear act on it. Every time you step out of your comfort zone you grow every time you don't you stay on the same spot. Good luck.

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"