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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 6:04 pm 
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The common advice on these forums when ending a relationship is to game other women.

I've recently begun wondering if it's ethical or right to essentially flirt with and use other women just to get over a recently ended relationship. Getting over a girl is a lot easier when you're pounding on a new one. But eventually the point comes when I realize I'm just using the new girl to get over the last one. Then the new girl gets hurt.

Anyone else encounter this question and reach a logical conclusion to it? I'm almost ready to conclude that the advice to use other people may not be all that great and just allows for ignoring a problem that eventually arises in every relationship I have.


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 Post subject: Re: Using people
PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 7:45 pm 
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The common advice on these forums when ending a relationship is to game other women.

I've recently begun wondering if it's ethical or right to essentially flirt with and use other women just to get over a recently ended relationship. Getting over a girl is a lot easier when you're pounding on a new one. But eventually the point comes when I realize I'm just using the new girl to get over the last one. Then the new girl gets hurt.

Anyone else encounter this question and reach a logical conclusion to it? I'm almost ready to conclude that the advice to use other people may not be all that great and just allows for ignoring a problem that eventually arises in every relationship I have.
You're relying to heavily on one particular relationship with one person.

The reason you will hear "go game other women" alot on the forum is so you can realize what you thought was "so great" wasn't really that great and is actually easily replaceable.


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 Post subject: Re: Using people
PostPosted: Sat May 25, 2013 5:39 am 
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Perfect answer. You're exactly right. Relying on one relationship way too heavily.

I need to digest more and fine tune this, but this is the answer I was looking for. Black and white. Thanks a lot man.


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