A snapshot of my psychological issues.



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PostPosted: Sat May 18, 2013 3:09 pm 
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I figured since this is such a great forum for inner-game why not post this here? Some of this material may not be PUA related but IS related to becoming a real man and living the life of a mans dreams.

THE LACK OF DRIVE.

Unable to create new things (rules, stories or anything else) in the conversation and, therefore, unable to lead at all.
Possible causes:
- Lack of resources for creativity.
- Lack of stability.
My definition of stability: The belief that something won't change and break said plans, also, the belief of something being permanent.

Hard time feeling positive emotions or thinking positivelly, but easy to think or feel negative.
Possible causes:
- Personality. "Acting out negative things for fun, (e.g. being grumpy, exaggerating loss or failure)"
- Lack of knowledge about positivity and positive mindsets.
- Conflicting belifefs.
Overly positive, smiling people are submissive, easily played with (I feel playable when smiling as I quickly drop the smile when something I dislike/fear arises. e.g. an AMOG.) and stupid.
Smiling at the wrong time is bad. (Am I giving into others rules or staying safe of looking stupid here?)
People smile because they're ass-kissers.

Feelings of being overwhelmed by:
-- The future. (A lot of work to do, fear of impermanent results or no results at all.)
-- Choices. (Indecisivity.)

Unability to concentrate on a single task.
Questions like: "Is this the best option for me right now? Why am I doing this? Why do I even need the results from this? Am I doing everything at my best? Will this matter later on?"
Thoughts/excuses like: "It's hot outside. I don't like people. I'm tired of everything. Nothing has a meaning anyways. It will all be useless in the end. Something didn't happen before this so this won't be as effective as it would be (I'll just skip it then.)."
The big Q: Is this really the "special", "valuable" thing I want to pursue in my life?

NOTE: I had and might still have a massive, complicated one-itis about my ex. ;S
Description of my one-itis:
My ex is the only girl I'd like to be with right now. I'm romantic by nature and don't like shallow "just sex" myself and I don't see going with 10 other girls as a cure for myself. There's a feeling that I have no other meaning without her in the world, but I don't want to push it off on her and tell her (she has a bf). I haven't really found out what I want from my life, but she's the thing I want to hold on to no matter what. She's the "special" thing I can't have and nothing else matters to me right now. I keep questioning myself about what I want from my life. Typical, huh?

Beliefs conflicting with the "society" (I call it "The System" for various reasons) belief system.
I don't like being the same as everyone else so I must, somehow, rebel. I must be unique and stand out. I can't "become better" than someone else, because I'm not even in the race with them, I'm on my own path. I can't be happier (or put x) than anyone else, because that's what everyone else would, logically, do. How can I be unique if everything I do forces me to follow "The System"? What is my unique purpose?

Other negative beliefs bothering me.
Everything has already been done by someone.
I've already existed in millions ways, a million times and cannot be unique.
Achievements are known and too easy and can't be used to fuel my drive.
Everything is boring, tiring, known.
With the mindset of "achievements are easy" everything is unthinkable to pursue and, therefore, difficult to want to do or to actually do.

Unability to be serious or seriously emotional with someone.
Description:
I always smile and laugh about things, but I can't ever get serious or emotional about anything. I rarely ever get mad at someone and if I do I can easily plan out my actions to make peace (that's not the problem, it's a symptom in my opinion). I'm afraid to be open emotionally. I have no idea why.

MY CURRENT PLAN OF ACTION.

- Changing the negative habits.
1. Noticing the negative thought, action, emotion.
2. Writing it down as descriptively as possible.
3. Thinking of a way to turn it into a positive.
4. Writing down the positive and re-reading it every morning. (With belief in it.)
NOTE: Must try not to get into denial, by replacing the negative thought with an ineffective, fake positive one.
- Changing the negative beliefs.
1. Creating a list of needed positives.
2. Embedding them through:
-- Hypnosis.
-- Morning re-reading of beliefs. (I'll make a textbook for these.)
-- Meditation.
- Accepting facts.
Accepting the thought of material, emotional and thought impermanence, through meditation.

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
Thanks to those who actually read the entire thing. I hope it wasn't hard to read or understand.
This isn't the complete list of my problems as I can't get my thoughts together right now (I'll probably be adding some more data later on. QUESTION: Does this forum have an edit time limit?).

Please do ask questions if you didn't understand something fully.
If you have any tips or anything you can help me with here please post below and if you need my help somewhere I'm sure to help you too. ^.^


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