I've got my flaws when it comes to game, but I'm good enough that I can get a girl interested, have sex, or whatever...but I cant seem to get to the point of getting her into a relationship with me, and I think the problem lies within the fact that my last few relationships...actually all of them were from a point where I was very insecure, like...extremely insecure. I ended up getting hurt in these relationships, and put myself on a long road of fixing my inner game and showing people the most awesome "me" I can, but I seem to hit this road bump...this bump is basically...when I see in my mind, that this girl could lead me somewhere, this is the point where I lose my nerve. I put my walls up, disconnect, and even get easily annoyed at her, I think its because I dont know how to hold a good relationship, and I dont wanna waste my time in the wrong one, conveying myself in the wrong way, thats out of alignment for who I am.

what can I do in this situation?

I understand where you are coming from.

Stop thinking so much. Appreciate the women you are with while you are with them, however short or long that may be. None of the women are perfect, enjoy the things that make them unique.

You may be reading too much into the situation or thinking too far ahead. Cross the bridges when you get there. Don't worry about changing/settling for a certain woman unless or until she verbalizes that is what she really wants.

Be the MAN in the relationship... All of the DHVs you show... Be congruent with them. The man in the relationship is the provider. The woman is the caregiver. You be the man, let her be the woman. And you will have a healthy relationship.

"when I see in my mind, that this girl could lead me somewhere, this is the point where I lose my nerve. I put my walls up, disconnect, and even get easily annoyed at her,"

This is the root of the problem. Subconsiously uou dont want to get hurt again and this is the defense mechanism! Ask yourself a serious question: "What do I really want out of my life" (pertaining to relationships of course). If the answer is not 100% "I wan't a girlfriend/wife" then you are not ready to make that kind of commitment.

You have to make yourself vulnerable if you ever want to be happy.

"Your brain will lie to you constantly, but your heart is incapable of lying" - Crypto...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

but why you must be in relationship? imho theres no such thing as relationship its just a mental construct...just like a horizon...although you can see it its not really there...just a useful word - sometimes...

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