| So in the last few months something happened in me where all of sudden I can approach any girl or groups of girls, even have girls approach me (which 5 out of the 5 times happened after they saw me dance), and have great exchanges. I think a lot of it was due to improv classes I've taken in the last year and performing on stage in front of an audience a handful of times. I did manage to get laid last month by a pretty hot girl, as well as help other friends get laid by approaching sets for them, and I continue to hang out with many new girls I've met that I genuinely consider just friends.
It was by no means a smooth process. I've gotten rejected more times than I could count (even slapped on one occasion by an emotional girl) and still continue to do so. It's gotten a lot easier for me to handle rejection, I've even embraced it. But it does get to me sometimes when I'm by myself and think of the times I did not succeed with girls I really liked. I understand that the encounters were all lessons I had to learn, which helped me identify my weak points and become better at talking to girls in general. Yet, they still leave a wound that I've found requires time to heal.
At this point, I feel like turning inward, spending more time reading books, going to the gym, watching foreign films, avoiding porn (which in my case I believe doing so strengthens my performance in bed), avoiding facebook, drinking less alcohol, and try to rebuild a solid foundation, which hopefully by then I'll have gotten those girls out of my mind. I would still approach other girls on the weekend or at the right opportunity.
Has anybody else felt their battle wounds during improving one's technique are still open? Or at least felt that way early on? How did you overcome them? It could be just a matter of continuing to get out there and fall down, no matter how exhausting it sounds. Winning in boxing I've heard is not about how hard you hit, but how hard you get hit and keep moving forward. If we know what we're worth, then we should go out and get what we're worth, but we gotta be willing to take the hits.
Any advice on how to deal with this would be much appreciated.
Thx,
BM
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CHAT