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PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2013 11:28 pm 
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I just got back from a 2nd date with this girl and I'm completely bummed. It's not that it went so bad, but more that I feel like I played my D game and as part of that didn't really relax and enjoy myself.
The problem is she looks too good. I think she is about a 9 for me, and I am in awe of her beauty and I keep being in a state of waiting for her approval. It's like I want to fuck her just so I can finally relax and get a chance to know her without fearing she is going to disappear any second. I know this is terrible. I have a pretty strong game, and even started tutoring with moderate success lately. I closed almost 30 chiks (most of them since starting with the game about 3 years ago) but unfortunately best I did was about an 8 with most girls being around 6s I think. I know for a fact that it's because I am just not playing the same game when I find a woman to be really attractive. It makes me overly nice, approval seeking, and less daring, especially in using more gutsy methods. I also find it harder to enjoy the process because I am stressed. This drives me crazy, I am in my 30s and thinking of settling down, but I don't want to have end up settling for less just because of this stupid conditioning I have of being awed by hot chicks and seeking their approval.
I feel so trapped. I developed my game so far and yet I can't bring it out when it matters most. With the current girl things are even worse because I felt this girl could end up being something serious. So instead of playing my usual game I tended more to "just be myself" and in this mode I often fall into basic pitfalls. I was overly nice and my physical game lacked my usual finesse and was just out of tune. Somewhere in my mind I wanted the beginning of the relationship with the girl I would marry to be different than all the rest, but I guess that's a limiting belief of sorts that will just leave me lonely and frustrated.

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I have a pretty decent game with ok looking chicks. But with hot chicks I lose a lot of my confidence, and just fall into being way too nice and approval seeking .


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PostPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2013 1:19 am 
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It sounds like you have limiting beliefs that make you feel like you dont deserve hot girls. If you felt like you deserved them, you would treat them the same way you treated the 6s and 8s

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2013 10:08 pm 
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Eventually you have to sack up and not be afraid to lose the girl to get the girl.

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