| The problem with us the "thinking" guys is that we think
everything is too complicated.
We make a science out of everything.
We complicate things way too much. We could
even complicate partying.
O yea, we already did...
On to this "thinking too much" stuff.
The story is we go out, and we constantly think about stuff.
You think about how you look, you think about something you
did today, you think about what you would want...
You're constantly thinking.
You even think about something clever you could say to that girl that's kind'a smiling to you the
whole night.
To avoid this, you want to become present.
But the thing that's messing this whole "Being present" thing for
us is the fact that we're not used to it. We think about stuff
all the time, so when it comes time to be present, we don't
know how to do it.
So there's a dirty exercise you can do to basically stop yourself
from thinking - especially if you're thinking about bad stuff about
yourself.
When you get into the club, and you find yourself starting to think,
don't try to fight your mind.
No.
On the contrary, accept whatever it is saying to you.
So for example, you come to the club and the music is pounding
and girls are dancing and everybody are bumping into you...and
you get lost in your thoughts.
You start thinking whatever, but at that moment, instead of
trying to stop yourself from thinking, take a few seconds and
OBSERVE your thoughts.
If you do meditation, than you know about this concept, the difference
is that you use it while out in the club.
You observe your thoughts and you accept them, not judge them.
You just say: "O wow I notice I started thinking about how I'm bothered
that I'm thinking, I wonder what's next"
If somebody bumps into you and you start thinking how this bothers you,
just observe and accept it: "This guy bumped into me, ok, I accept, and I notice
that I'm botherd by this"
What you do by becoming this "Accepting Observer" is you actually start being
present to observe.
So you keep doing this for couple of seconds, and eventually you will
notice that the thoughts have stopped. And you'll be in this present state.
So this technique is somehow different than trying to "pump yourself up" by
listening to some music or jumping up and down from joy before hitting the
club.
Try becoming the "Accepting Observer" so to speak, and you will see you will
be present AND in the right state.
Phantom
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