I don't by any means think that I have the quality of Inner Game that is necessary for a healthy relationship. But my gf and I split. She moved out, and I was having a serious talk with the cat today about it... I was telling him he can't just act like a big cat or the dog will get him. At which point the dog lunged at him. Pets are great solace in times of sorrow... =)

Anyways... I realized I have just been acting like a big badass. I put on my "avatar costume" with jewelry and what ever and go out and use fake lines on phony girls and while it is great for a moment, once they get to know me and see past the BS, they see that I'm just the same little geek in big shoes... So... Time to work on Inner Game...

I have an interesting life, am talented musically and in artistically - I have a book coming out next month, but I need to figure out how to balance this swag style person I pretend to be with the person I am. I have traded my metal jewelry for some hemp style necklaces and am going to slow down and work on my day game. Kick the canned material and go straight to the bitch... Jeremy Soul is very interesting when it comes to this... Anyone read Daytime Dating yet?

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Congrats.

Seems like your evolution as a PUA is progressing. Instead of ACTING aloof, cool, calm and confident, you actually want to BE all of those things.

It's not an easy process, definitely not one I have perfected, but it's a lot more satisfying process when you reap some successes from it than bedding a hot chick who means nothing to you. It feels really fucking good to be able to say you are cool with something and know you mean it.

Best of luck. And please keep us posted on bumps you hit in the road so we can all learn from each other.

Yes, you want to be all of those things, but you can also look at canned stuff the other way around. I'd say you were using it wrong in the first place. You shouldn't use canned stuff to make you into someone else. You should use it to make things easier for you, to assist you. Having a canned opener/routine means that you can be less nervous, you don't have to think of something yourself, and therefore you can concentrate on more important things like body language, eye contact, remaining calm, that sort of thing.

Right. When you ask "Why do you think men lie more than women?" or whatever line you use, it doesn't matter what her blah blah blah response is. You are no longer thinking about that question either. You are focusing on your body language and trying to read hers, as well as taking in everything else. Whereas an AFC would focus solely on saying the words of the line and hoping his voice doesn't crack.

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