Hey guys,
So, I've been really shy, awkward and introverted my entire life. I have really strict parents so I've only ever had 5 nights out. University is meant to be my ticket out, to be free, to be able to go clubbing, be social and finally be able to do normal people shit.

At first I was really excited and hyped up but as it comes closer to leaving (about a week now) i'm starting to feel really nervous. I had a friend tell me today, "be social when you get there man. I see you being really lonely at uni." This has been on my mind all fucking day.

So i guess my question is, how should I be at uni? What is being social? How should i dress at a club? HOW CAN I MEET LOTS OF GIRLS AND GET THEM SEEING ME AS A SEXUAL PARTNER FROM THE BEGINNING - NOT A FRIEND? And don't say be myself because my real self still lives in shell some place...

Thanks in advance for the help guys really need the advice.

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Just go out and have fun with people at first mate, don't take the whole social game at uni too seriously. Just go with the flow.
Start off slow and make some actual friends first (both male and female, don't leave anyone out, talk to everyone!), join some clubs/societies (there are loads!). If you play a sport you won't have a problem making friends. Once you have a solid group of mates they will support and bolster up your social status and introduce you to other people, in particular plenty of girls you can hook up with and maybe take things further with. You will meet plenty of guys I'm sure that will be more than willing to go out sarging with you (even if they aren't PUAs) themselves). Just have fun, talk to lots of people, flirt lots and hook up if the opportunity is there.

Most importantly though: STAY SAFE. Drink lots but don't overdo it for obvious reasons. Lots of shit can also go down at uni so be careful, keep a cool head and don't take unnecessary risks, encourage others to do the same.

It's a fun, intense, fast paced and truly unforgettable experience at uni so make the most of it and don't let any opportunities slide!

Best if luck to you sir!

Sources: My own experience, I've just finished my degree and am going back to do a post grad year in a couple of weeks

If you've been sheltered that much I think a good idea for you would be to relax and not put so much pressure on yourself. Take your time, learn who you are on your own without being told who to be. Don't even worry about results. Think of this all as practice being social in a way you've never been before.

Take your time!

You don't need to go out and have tons of girls loving you overnight. Start small. Just focus on conversation at first. Or start even smaller and just start with being able to go out and stay relaxed. One step at a time. In a while you'll be further than you expected.

Also yes be social but you don't have to be social with everyone. Find your interests and your group. At a university there are lots of clubs and groups. When you find the ones that you fit in, you'll relate to people naturally.

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If I was going back to Uni my rules would be...

1. Don't try to sleep with the girls in your flat/house. When you first meet them try to come across as a chilled/cool guy. Once you've know each other a few days you can really let your personality out/ give them banter or go crazy. Make them your best friends and be fun around them so they always want you to come out with them on a night out. That way you always have awesome social proof whenever you walk in to a bar/club.

2. Join as many socials or clubs as possible. That way you can easily meet a couple of hundred people in a few weeks. Say that you join the Skiing Club. In England (not sure where you are) we have socials on a Wednesday. The whole club goes out and gets smashed together (60 odd people) and usually pairs up for the night with another social (hopefully pole-dancing lol) so you can have well over a hundred of you barcrawling together. All the socials will then end up in a big club at the end of the night.

If on the bar crawl you go round and introduce yourself to most of the people, you can know at least 20 girls on first name terms. You don't need to game them, just chat for like 20 seconds e.g Hi I'm.....what social are you on, where you from, cool see you guys later. The whole point is that later when everyone's drunk you can walk up to those girls in the club and with high energy be like "Hey (insert name) and get a big hug." If you can do that with say 10-15 girls in that club, every other girl in the club will fucking well notice! You will have massive social proof and pre-selection and you will not even need game to pull. You can then join a different social the next week and meet a whole new load of people!

3. Make your room the party place of your flat and make your flat the party place of your hall/student area. By this I mean keep your room clean and make it look cool so that people will always be happy to come to your room to chill/watch films/hangout. Its good for you socially. Making your/hall/house/flat a big party place is way more important though. Once you've met a load of friends through the socials or whatever, invite everyone over to your place to pre-drink. If you have 15-20 hot girls coming over to your place to drink before going out your value will shoot through the roof. Learn some drinking games and teach them to people when they come over. It makes you come across as a leader. Getting a semi-decent sound system would be a good idea.

5. Make friend with high value people. Fresher reps and people working with the uni staff and already have great contacts they can introduce you to.

6. Get your inner game tidied up. Download Tyler's blueprint and work from there. It will be hard at first but as you get more experience socially the lessons will start to kick in and you will become better and better socially. It's hard and it takes time. Don't get frustrated with yourself early on, just keep socialising and keep learning. You're never failing you're just learning. Also it can take up to a few months to find a really tight group of friends so dont be put off if people seem different to start with.

7. Fuck you for being lucky enough to find this forum before going to Uni. I'd kill to have known all this stuff before being a fresher lol.

Thanks for your replies guys, all 3 of them have been fucking GOLD.

Seriously, without this I would have gone uni and creeped people out by trying way too hard and and i was also would have gamed the girls living with me. You guys have saved me doing shit load of mistakes. I'm just gonna relax as much as i can and take things as they come

Thanks again guys. If anyone else has some advice it would be much appreciated

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No problem. For sure, your biggest risk is that you've finally been unleashed into the world after being penned up at home and you could come off way too strong and aggressive. Try to rein in that energy a little and keep it cool and that will lead you where you need to go.

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Not a problem mate First years the best, so enjoy it. It gets a bit tougher after that point!