| just go talk to more girls, maybe even go out with the purpose of getting rejected for a couple nights, give yourself permission to fail if you have to,
get as many rejections as you possibly can, but have a focal point that you want to focus on learning, so for example, lets say you are having trouble escalating, open some sets with ''you girls are cute, would you like to kiss me?, or ''OMG THESE GIRLS MUST KNOW HOW TO PARTY!!, you girls had your first bar makeout yet?'' after they say no, just go for it and say, ''well allow me!'', you will see all kinda of reactions and plenty of back turns and no's and resistance, but it will be funny and you will probably have a good time, unless you are all nervous and self concious about it, in that case you will develope some willpower and take a step in overcomming your fears
maybe you get a kiss, probably you don't, but you will realize you didn't die from these girls saying no, it will not change who you are, and eventually some girl will say yes, that should be enough for your self esteem to know that you are not repulsive or anything, they are just worried about what people think about them, just like you are reflecting and analyzing these ''rejections'' because it bothers you that someone didn't think positively of you, it's just your ego trying protect it's self, just go out and utterly destroy your ego while trying to keep your self esteem intact
you can also just use rejection openers, like ''excuse me girls, could you please just reject me?, no one loves me, I smell bad, I'm ugly, I....'' *continue on just qualifying yourself to things you think are funny*
''I'm charming and I'm rich and handsome, who wants to date me?''
''damn girls, look at these abs, you likey? huh? you likey? RUB DEM ABS DERE, look at that!''
you can also do crazy embarassing shit, it will help you deal with social pressure, you will know that you can do pretty much anything you want and no one will kill you as a result (as long as it isn't harmful or agaisnt the law), at most you have to face some social pressure, and looks of dis-approval, maybe have some funny stories to walk away with, but, you will live, you are still you if someone hates you or likes you, it's ok, as long as you know who you are it doesn't matter what they think
things like singing happy birthday as loud as you can in a bar/restaurant for no reason, humping inadament objects, extreme peacocking, asking extremely random questions (like for example, directions to africa), walking around with a giant kick me sign on your back, trying to talk to people acting like a retard, winking at people as you pass them, going into restaurants and ordering food that is not on the menu and becomming overly sad/depressed/dramatic when they tell you they don't serve that and trying to be persistant in getting them to make that thing for you, walking up to groups of people and trying to tell them terrible jokes that are not funny at all and persisting until they actually ask you to stop, trying to seriously chat up girls with a fake moustache/monacle drawn on your face with magic marker
after a while you can start to focus more on if you like to people you are interacting with, more then if they like you, and that goes further then skin deep, there are hotties everywhere, no point in being invested in one girl just because you think she looks good, but has the personality of a rock
eventually you can get used to the idea of a wanting to just get rejected or accepted immidiately with higher risk approaches, that way if she isn't interested, right away you will know, and you just saved yourself some time, who cares about what she thinks, and if you are just looking for girls to chill with in a setting with multiple girls, no point in wasting time and energy on someone who is no fun, how she responds to you will tell you alot about her, girl doesn't laugh at your jokes? she is probably not funny herself (at least towards your sense of humour), or she might even be slow or something, girl starts saying negative socially retarded shit when you are being friendly, maybe she is insecure, or maybe she is just a mean spirited person, you can test further to figure out these things, but you gotta figure out what it is you like in a girl to descide what you do and do not want to see in an approach and when it is time to cut her loose and walk on to the next one, it's all about screening alot of girls to find the ones you like the most, then choosing from them, rather then going up to one girl and having to make it work and trying to do or say the right thing to get her approval, nah, your approval is of value here, you choose who you like and dis-like, and if they already dis-like and are rude and not fun to be around, why would you waste investing yourself into dwelling on them, there are so many other girls that will be so much cooler
if you are not feeling it, you can seriously just walk away mid-sentance and just blow the girl off with a, ''well nice meeting you, lol''
just have to stop taking this shit so seriously, it isn't life or death, just go out to hit on girls to have fun, don't worry about being accepted or rejected, the outcome is not important, having a good time while going through the process is, if you base your self esteem off other peoples opinions and keep trying to protect your ego at all times, you won't be able to express your personality very well, because you will be feeling too self concious
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