As I come across the forum I see posts like "this girl in my class etc.." "I have 3 days to get a girls number" and more of these posts. By "these" I am referring to posts that focus on something specific such as a certain girl or a certain technique. I try to answer them as much as I can but since all of them are pretty much the same I will just make this one post for everyone to read and learn lots from it. If you have a question whether when approaching, texting, or at home about how to do a specific thing you have a problem. You feel this is your one shot to impress this girl or win her over and therefore look at her like it's you last chance. This is not only with girls. This can be in all kinds of forms where you are debating yourself what technique to use. This comes from a mind of limitation. This happens when you feel limited and you feel like this is your only shot, hence your very careful at selecting and analyzing your next action. Instead you should have no mindset at all. Let me explain. To solve this problem you will need to do 3 things

1) Understand what your problem is. Many people don't understand the problem they're having. They might think that their looks are bad that's why the girl doesn't like them while it has nothing to do with looks but rather their neediness or some other factor. Record yourself either a video of yourself or just an audio when your talking with girls to understand your problem. Ask someone who is really good with woman for feedback.

2) Accept the problem. It's not enough to just understand the problem. Until you accept the fact that you do have a problem your mind will trick you into thinking that your doing ok and everything is perfect.

3) Have no mindset. When one tries to convince himself something other that one is used to his mind will fight it off and not let it through. Instead what you have to do is just observe your thoughts and don't fight against them. Accept them. After you do so you will start to notice patterns in your mind where it will have the same repetitive thoughts such as "what do i say to this girl" "what do I text this girl" and you will start to notice that your mind is actually telling you irrational things.

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"

I do this with my day game all the fucking time.

I see a hot girl, in fact yesterday, a 2 set walks up near me, stops, and one of them is staring me dead in the eye for a good lock-on and I smiled and kept walking — because I choke and have "nothing to say."

I do that for the first 3 sets of my night game, yet I know if I got out on the night game, after I get past the first 3 shitty sets (hell, some of them don't end up badly shockingly) — I have no problem opening up girls and their accompanying friends the rest of the night. I can bounce from club to club, and just blow myself out of all of them with no problem (as in, I am not going to feel dejected even if the night is a complete flop, once I get past the first 3).


I am trying to take to heart the advice I read awhile back — open one girl every day. For me, that is my lunch break — when I get to go outside in a very busy part of town, where hot women are pretty much everywhere.

I said yesterday that I would begin today — but then had to go for a drive instead of walking around outside for lunch.

I did neg a cute girl in the office I've never seen ebfore who apologized to me after letting a door shut when I was behind her. She laughed and I said "well I guess that counts for today" — but that is definitely a weak hunt. Kinda like going salmon fishing and coming home with an old boot you hooked on the bottom of the river, then saying "At least I got something."

I may have some more opportunity to approach at least one girl "on the street" or so to speak, but when I do go to approach one, I tend to make up excuses or never have something "good" to say until it is "too late."

I really need to get past my AA because the rest of my game is not bad at all. I have a very good success rate when you tally my scores that took place after the initial "breaking of the ice" but I lose most of my games because of AA.

I call myself more of a "closer" than an "icebreaker" — same thing even with my business. I usually had more outgoing people bring clients in the door — at which point once I know they are interested I could woo them, and show them how I can make them money and get them to sign on the dotted line. I always feel awkward at the "breaking of the ice" moment, and business networking is easier than sarging — although I always tell people they are almost the exact same thing.