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PostPosted: Wed Mar 28, 2012 9:16 pm 
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Ok I am 30 years old. Never had any real success with women. Ive had 2 girlfriends in my entire life and they were both severly overweight. Ive been out on a few dates but once they've met me they don't wanna know me anymore. I have found out the real reason why they might not want me - baldness! Since age 21 ive been losing my hair and now i am almost completely bald! Even tho im 30 I look more like 50 so when I approach a girl she automaically assumes that I am an old man. I don't blame women for rejecting me. If an old women started coming on to me I would reject her as well. The problem is that I am not really old but just look old because of my hairloss. I am considering a hair transplant and i was wondering if anyone on this forum has done this? Was it a success and did it help you get the girls?


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PostPosted: Wed Mar 28, 2012 10:08 pm 
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Trust me - Just because you're bald won't make women not want you. If you haven't already, I would recommend just shaving it all off completely. My ex gf's dad was bald with a shaved head and he didn't look old. You might also want to start hitting the gym and lifting some weights as it may make you look a little younger.

Looks aside, don't worry about it too much. There are people out there who look behind the cover of the book. Work on getting into conversations with girls. Put yourself out there. If you are waiting in line and spot a girl you are interested in spark up a conversation. Anytime, anywhere. Get as much conversation in as possible.

Good luck in your journey!

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PostPosted: Sat Mar 31, 2012 10:58 pm 
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Hey octopus,

What's really interesting is that I started to lose my hair at the age of 21. That was also the year I lost my virginity. It's funny because the more hair I keep losing, the more girls I keep sleeping with.
While that is 100% true, losing your hair or having your hair has NOTHING to do with getting girls.

First off, your putting too much emphasis on looks. While girls are pretty shallow, they get turned on more by how a man makes them FEEL, rather than how he LOOKS.

Second, EVERYONE loses their hair eventually. Just role with the style, and like the above poster mentioned, shave it off if you need to.

Third, and most importantly, losing your hair is not the issue here. The issue seems to be the lack of self-confidence you have. Take a look at your life and ask yourself how much influence you think your 'hair' has had in your life, and compare that with how much influence your 'attitude' has had in your life.

I can already tell you which one matters more, and its that one that you should be focused on.

Hope this helps,

Losing hair before it was cool,

Samex


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PostPosted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 8:16 am 
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Ok I am 30 years old. Never had any real success with women. Ive had 2 girlfriends in my entire life and they were both severly overweight. Ive been out on a few dates but once they've met me they don't wanna know me anymore. I have found out the real reason why they might not want me - baldness! Since age 21 ive been losing my hair and now i am almost completely bald! Even tho im 30 I look more like 50 so when I approach a girl she automaically assumes that I am an old man. I don't blame women for rejecting me. If an old women started coming on to me I would reject her as well. The problem is that I am not really old but just look old because of my hairloss. I am considering a hair transplant and i was wondering if anyone on this forum has done this? Was it a success and did it help you get the girls?
That makes sense. However...

What if SOME women don't like you because of your baldness, but not ALL the women on the planet?

What if... Maybe women don't like you because of your baldness, WHEN YOUR APPEARANCE SUCKS. But if you suit up, get a cool haircut, maybe shave your head, grow a cool beard and/or wear cool clothes, work out, etc. Maybe you could stop looking old and more wimmin would be attracted to you.

What if not all women perceive you as being old and you're just ASSUMING they see you as an old fart but in reality, they might not?

And even if you WERE 50, What if there ARE 50-year-old men who can get chicks, somehow, in a way that you can learn?


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PostPosted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 8:55 am 
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probably won't make much of a difference in your love life,

looks are subjective, chances are you don't put yourself out there with enough women, sure some girls will not like bald guys, but on the other hand some girls will have a fetish for bald guys and have a preference to dating bald guys, some girls will only date white guys, some girls will only date black guys, some girls will only date asian guys, chances are you are just simply not meeting enough women and asking them out, I would say physical fitness is more important then hair, and as long as you are average looking you are probbably good enough in the looks department to start going after girls, obviously the better your appearance the easier it will be for you, but realistically it is your confidence that will get you laid, not the looks, the looks just make you not have to work as hard to reach your goals (don't get that confused with trying hard)

if you not having hair makes you feel insecure and you think getting some sort of hair surgery will make you feel better about yourself to the point you can approach women and feel confident in yourself and entitled to them, then go for it, but chances are it is all in your head


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I don't intend to threadjack, but i have an experience that's along the same line. Being only 5'-4" for a guy, a lot, and i mean a lot of women look the other way. Online dating, i don't even bother to message anyone taller than me. But I'm an athelete with abs, smart and tell funny stories, and also rogain my head when it was thinning a bit. I'm not saying its easy, cause my heigt makes it extremely hard, but it's not impossible to find chicks interested in you. Don't take this game to heart. Learn and have fun.


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