Through trial and error I've come to the realization that my degree of confidence, motivation, energy, and creativity directly correlate with my sexual energy. When I haven't ejaculated for the longest is when I have the highest energy and social presence, so I've avoided masturbation. It takes some degree of self discipline but the benefits are great.

In addition, I've done all I can to MAX my sexual energy to the point of being one hell of a horny bastard, using herbs, energy drinks, a healthy diet, plenty of water, and sleep.

My only problem is that after about a week or so, my sexual energy is SO high that I'm practically going super nova with it. I can't fall asleep because I keep picturing myself having perfect sex with the hottest girls I know and getting a nice fat boner because of it. I meditate and do breathing exercises, and eventually I can relax and fall asleep.

But here's the catch. Noctural emissions! Fuck em them to hell. Usually on these nights where I've resisted the impulse to masturbate in order to maintain my energy and confidence, I just end up coming in my sleep anyway! Messy business, and such a waste. I'm 22.

It could be that there's just nothing I can do about this, and that I should just enjoy a masturbation session once a week, but I'd really like to be able to hold it for longer periods of time.


Any ideas, or help, or links to old topics would be GREATLY appreciated. I feel like this is stepping into yoga - esoteric territory.

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Nocturnal emissions happen for a reason; your body doesn't just get rid of fluids and stuff for the sake of it. It's not healthy to not clear your system out so to speak. You don't have to masturbate, as your body will find its own ways of getting rid if you don't want to masturbate. But if it was perfectly alright for it to stay in there any longer, the body wouldn't get rid of it in the first place. I'm sure there are ways to delay or even stop nocturnal emissions if you really want to, but personally, I think that messing with something that is completely and utterly natural and something that the body does for a good reason is a silly idea just to boost your energy.

If not masturbating ups your energy etc. then fine don't do it, but I wouldn't try to stop nocturnal emissions (if there even is a way to do so, I don't know). Instead, look at dietary changes, doing more exercise, getting better sleep and simple things like changes in mental attitude instead.

That's actually a good point: If it wasn't necessary your body wouldn't do it. I just feel so lame the day after.

I guess I can also view sex as an excuse to ejaculate and therefore seek it out even more actively.

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You can, but think about this - if your energy is coming about because you're not masturbating, then surely sex is going to have the same negative effect on your energy?

And not having sex in order to boost your sexual energy rather defeats the object!

Look at other ways to boost it and stop yourself from feeling shitty. It could now also be a mental thing - you've started to link masturbating/ejaculation with low energy. If So maybe don't look at that - look at masturbation/sex as a healthy and natural thing (although I wouldn't masturbate too often, especially if you're getting some!), and try to get to the same mental and physical levels of energy through other means.

My hunch is that sex wouldn't take away energy, but rather just give me an adrenalin high. And I'd be so into the girl the next day I would forget about feeling low energy. [Yeah, I'm still a virgin. That's why I am here. So I really can't say.]


I really don't have any weird guilt issues with masturbation OTHER than the low energy thing and OTHER than that I'd rather be coming into a girl. I really DO enjoy it when I do it.

Thanks for your input.

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In terms of biology, science and physicality, sex would take that "energy" away in exactly the same way that you suppose masturbation takes it away - they both end the same way; you ejaculate and release your built up sexual energy/frustration!

You may get some chemicals released around your body that boost testosterone for a short period, or various other theses that suggest chemical reactions with very little scientific support, but bottom line is, you're still going to be back with an "empty gun" so to speak. So the sexual energy built up through not masturbating goes when you ejaculate/orgasm during sex.

The only difference is that with sex, you make up for the loss of energy through other mental reasons - you've lost your virginity so you're on a high, you've just had great sex, you get a kick out of having sex with a hot girl you've been gaming for a while, whatever. But those are all mental reasons, rather than actual physiological reasons.

So for me, getting that sexual energy through other (mental) means and being able to have sex/masturbate with no negative effects on my energy is the better option of the two!

No worries about my input - it's just my theory. I'm not an expert on the science of it all, I have just read a few articles in order to try and make my own informed decisions on these masturbation threads you see on here, rather than just taking any old rumour/wive's tale at face value. Someone may be able to develop my reasonings further.

But good luck!

Fuck! I'm screwed man! [No puns intended ;)]


I guess I'm really not as worried about it now as a was. I just made a profound shift in my mental state. A real leap in self acceptance/ AND improvement. Self acceptance is self improvement!

Totally digging the Real Social Dynamics philosophy SPAM. It made big changes for me that I can physically and emotionally FEEL. My body and soul love it. Not trying to sell it. But hell, it's free. On you tube. Tyler is a fucking bomb. I would cuddle up to him like a little beta puppy.

I also made another big change in my life: I'm moving to San Fran in the fall and getting out of the whole college scene. IT'S JUST NOT MY FUCKING CUP OF TEA. This decision made the aforementioned shift in reality possible for me and destroyed a blockage I had in my energy flow. Sexual energy is no longer a thing of scarcity, but of abundance.

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