| Your MIND is your ENEMY
So what is the biggest enemy of confidence?
What is the thing that messes with your head when you're trying
to approach or talk to a girl?
What's the thing that get's you doubting of your worth, yourself
and your abilities?
Confidence as I defined it is about feeling good about yourself,
but also feeling sure and certain about yourself.
> Certain about what you're doing.
> Certain about what you're talking.
> Certain about where you're going.
But there is one thing, one enemy that is going to try to BREAK
that certainty more than any other thing.
That enemy...
Is your MIND.
Your mind works in weird ways.
It has the capacity to imagine all of the wonderful possibilities, but also to imagine all
of the horrible, exagarated things that will probably never happen...
So as you're talking with a girl, you might be confident untill
at one point your minds starts talking and says, "Do you know what
she's thinking of you?"
"You aren't cool enough...and you will mess it up soon".
Or you're trying to do something, and right before you do, your mind
starts talking "It's not going to work..."
Your mind is like a naughty kid in the playground, jumping on other
kids sandboxes and stepping on their sand castles.
It's not there to help you. It's there to try to make it harder for you.
So the question is, HOW do you stop your mind from playing tricks on you?
Do you even have any power over your mind?
The answer is YES, you do.
You see, the power that your mind has over you is in your taking it seriously.
Your mind is a spoiled kid who is running around and coming up with ways
to mess things up...and you're treating it like a grown up, responsible person.
The way you get power over your mind is by learning to NOT TAKE IT SERIOUSLY.
And instead of being WITH your mind, and listening to what it's saying, become
a detached OBSERVER of your mind who doesn't take it seriously but is entertained
by it.
So for example, when you want to approach a girl, you hear your mind say
"She's going to take a blow torch and burn your eye!"
...You become an observer, and you laugh at the imagination that your
mind has.
You don't take it seriously.
If you're talking with a girl and you hear your mind say:
"She thinks you're a poor guy who doesn't have anything to offer to her...and you're
going to mess it up..."
...again, become the observer of your mind and be entertained by the wild
imagination that your mind has.
If you're thinking of asking the girl out, and your mind says, "She's going
to laugh at you for thinking you can date her"
...observe your mind, detach yourself from it and say, "Thank you for
sharing Mind, your imagination is really creative. I'll ask this
girl out now, and you just sit tight"
Your mind is the enemy of Confidence.
It doesn't want to make you happy.
It wants to mess with you and play tricks.
It's a naughty kid, not a serious adult.
Don't take it seriously.
Observe it and be entertained by it.
And then ignore it and do what you want to do.
By the way, if you want to learn more stuff about how to
be confident with women, link's in the signature.
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