Hey it's Phantom,
I want to talk about a topic that is pretty obvious really, but most guys seem to miss it. And the topic is about the element of sexuality and sex when it comes to women.
You see, the difference between going and starting a conversation with a man and the difference between starting a conversation with a girl you like is in the fact, that when you go and start a conversation with a girl you like, you have this element of SEXUALITY in it.
And, IF you are not sexually aware of yourself and you are sexually insecure than you are going to experience INTERNAL FRICTION within you.
If, on the other hand, you accept sexuality of people in general and you accept your sexuality in perticular.. and you become comfortable with your sexuality, than when you approach a girl, you are going to focus on HER and the beauty your conversation has.
You are going to focus on her as a human being and having a normal conversation with her.
Not on "what you would do to her"
It's not about having anxiety. It's about thinking it as if it is "wrong".
You see, all of our life we have been programmed by society, media and religion that women are this perfect innocent creatures and that they don't like sex at all.
It's a secret agenda of all to keep men from really being confident, so they can controll them with their "buy now" commercials, fear and insecurity.
We've been told that women are shy and have sex only because they have to. It is what we've been told as being "pure".
With this unconcious belief that ONLY those women who don't like sex are pure, and women who do like sex are "sluts", we create an aura in our approach saying: "If you like me, you're a slut".
And than we wonder why our approach doesn't work?
And this is what it is REALLY all about.
No matter what you say to her, if you don't have this part of your "sexuality" handled, than this is going to come out in the way you speak, how you hold yourself and the tone you are using. It will come out in your communication.
You will be perceived weird...and creepy.
The thing that you need to handle is whole idea of sex and sexuality and what it means - Is it bad or good?
My suggestion is this - If you are have issues with approaching women, than you haven't handled your idea of sex and you have a bad idea of it and on an unconcious level you think sex as being "wrong" and "bad" and you don't allow yourself to grow sexually --> To accept sex as normal, sexuality as a normal part of being a human and seeing the beauty of sex and sexuality.
Sex and sexuality come from love, and one of the best pieces of art have been the work of love.
Think of all the love songs, the sculptures, paintings and statues that man has made because of love.
Love is beautiful. Sexuality and sex are beautiful.
Well, instead of seeing sex and sexuality as beautiful, we see it as wrong and bad.
But what happens when our INEVITABLE need to reproduce kicks in and you see that hot girls outside?
That's right, it causes you to look at women as "hot bitches" with whome you can get wild and live out your dirty secret fantasy and live out that part of you that is "dirty and wrong" and that shouldn't be doing that.
It's all there guys.
I'm going to suggest that this idea of "sex is bad" and "women are bitches" is the very idea that is preventing you from having the success you want with women.
It's not about learning pick up techniques and routines - it's about this aura, this inevitable presence that you put out to women and they feel it - that is going to determine your success.
I suggest you take a step toward resolving this issue in your life.
If you don't, you are doomed to never ending seminars, new books and courses that teach you good stuff- but will not work because of your mentality about women.
I have developed a coaching program called "The Ultimate Man" that is designed specifically to change this secret aura you carry arrond yourself into a aura that women are naturally attracted to...even if you don't say a word.
The coaching is done 1 on 1, wich gives you an unfair advantage from everybody else learning from a book or a home-study seminar course.
I understand not everybody has the time or money to invest in 1 on 1 coaching, that is why you can take advantage of my Free 60 minutes coaching session here:
http://www.volcanoconfidence.com/free-c ... -call.html
O and I understand and realize that some guys will take advantage of my free coaching session and end here.
And I'm ok with that. I'm here to help you, and I think it's better to do anything than to mastrubate infront of porn.
So if you want to learn about sexuality and how to change your perception of how you see women, go here
http://www.volcanoconfidence.com/free-c ... -call.html and take advantage of my free coaching session.
Talk to you soon,
Fantom
CHAT