Oneitus, Is this the right forum if not where do I go ?

How do i get rid of it ?

How to avoid it ?

any answer or piece of advice would be good thanks in advance.

Infernal comedy

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You not being happy is like the sun not giving the moon its light.... no matter what the world does its only half of what it used....

In my opinion, sarging is the only way to mind yourself about a one itis. I remember i used to have one of those.. and when I went out with my wings and see all the fresh meat in field.. you just completely forget about your one itis. Of course it takes some time to completely not think about her.. but it's a great start. If you're good at pick up it's even better because when you will KC or NC a HB.. you'l feel so great you're going to says fuck that one itis girl there's plenty others like her.. so my advice is to really do your homework well: sarge!

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Greatness is never borned

Oneitis is basically when you get a fixation on a girl who isnt interested. This normally comes from you having a scarcity mentality, thinking that that is the only girl you will ever find or the best one you will ever find.

Fact is, there are many girls out there and most have the power to blow your mind so you will find a new one without too much trouble.

How to avoid it, dont get emotionally attached to any girl before you know her. Before you have a relationship with her, any kind really. She is not "the one", there are many "the ones" out there. Just look at how many people manage to find "the one" in their own hometown, coincidence huh?

If you already have Oneitis you are probably thinking that you are in love. Some people just wants to be in love. So they force it, getting that warm fuzzy feeling but then paying the humiliating price when she doesnt want you. Stop forcing it, you can be a great guy without being in love. And no nobody is gonna think less of you for being able to drop your interest quickly.
Best way to fight it is to keep busy, allow yourself to have fun and meet new people. Maybe youll meet another girl while youre at it.

This is the right forum for oneitis because most of us have had it.

Hang in there.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

ok here is how I AM GETTING RID OF IT

bro im was going through it and i slowly realized that she did not like me like that.
1.delete her from your fone so u wont text her when u get feelings about her.
2. i would delete her from face book if ur not strong enough to not stop looking at her profile or what she is doing. if not i would set my setting where to she does not pop on my news feed.
3. GO OUT AND GET OTHER GIRLS... at one point i would not talk to other girls because i would feel safe thinking about her and tell myself i got this girl when there were plenty of oppourtunities to game other girls.
4. some ppl reccomend that if she only wants to be firends with you, some reccomend that u make her ur pivot or wingwoman. which is good, but not good in this case because she is your oneitits.
5. GET OUTHER GIRLs...... simple as that. some reccomend doing other activities like sports, hobbies etc... i dont because when u think of girls the onitis one will prob pop to your head so if u got other girls, they will pop into your head.

you wont get rid of oneitis one day to the next. i think that this is something not many books adress. it will take a while, for me it took, well its taking a couple months, im almost over it. but man the faster you get rid of it the less time u waste gaming other girls man. Well i hope this works out for you and DO LET ME KNOW how you are progressing. i want to see how other ppl hndle onitis and see if thier methods are better.

-Happy Gaming

hey thanks for the reply, yea so the consensus is take the Hemingway route and replace one girl with ten. I find I enrapture and disappoint, I've been in situations where I go in and talk to people, not seduction etc but just talking, and they seem to just love me but after a while I guess I just seem to drift away ?
stupid question here I guess, any tips or methods on keeping emotional distance/erasing emotional attachments. At the moment I think I'm too happy and too... needy ?

valentyn thanks man, I'll go sarging sometime this week hopefully get something, don't worry I'll study up

Juice man, Ill definitely keep you updated, haha don't think i can delete her from my phone or facebook a little too weak for that.

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You not being happy is like the sun not giving the moon its light.... no matter what the world does its only half of what it used....

[quote]Juice man, Ill definitely keep you updated, haha don't think i can delete her from my phone or facebook a little too weak for that.

DUDE... u have to atleast change ur setting on facebook where u dont get her newsfeed on ur wall because then you are back at square 1. that is being weak. i know i sound a little demanding but this is what becoming a PUA is all about. changing your old ways and becoming stronger. you even said so ur self that im a little too weak for that. COME ONE MAN YOU CAN DO IT.I BELIEVE IN YOU cause i beleived in me when i did it.!! i know its hard bro. its very hard for me too! you can do it

and if you do delete her phone just send a message on fb " hey i got a new phone but for some reason the numbers didnt go through, what was yours again"

Keep me updated man!!
-Juice[/quote]

so .. you make one mistake or maybe two and you think you suck and how it's all over ? how many punches do you eath before you learn how to do boxing .. probably a hundred if not more..

nah you are not social .. that's just some fucking behaviour it's not really you.. everyone can be social -the question is do you like to be social ? some people don't and some people do , but there is no need to indentify with such thing..

most people are just social because they are motherfucking approval seekers.. you are just performing needy and approval seeking behaviours... im not saying you should stop interacting with people , im just saying you need to grow some awareness and look at why you do things the way you do them.... maybe observe yourself in a interaction - just to see if you are seeking approval or not.

tell yourself to stop doing shit that doesn't work... seeking approval sucks...if you talk to someone because you like it it's ok.. if you talk to someone because you have self-interests its ok... just do not talk to get their aprroval - that's stupid...you need to trust yourself instead of getting trust from others .. who cares what other people think - they might as well be lying to you.

yes .. no experience with woman .. scarcity mindset , you will cling onto a few woman because you don't have the click that you can get them all.... you need a skillset and character, you need to break old habits because:

female brains are female brains .. female psychology is the same wherever you go... some woman are arrogant or cocky yes .. but they are all woman and they all have the same instinctive needs and triggers...

you cannot make some assumptions on the few experiences you had .. it's just a stupid and ridicilious thing to do... if you approach 5 woman , and you get rejected 5 times... why in earth would you create negative assumptions on those few experiences ?

if you are not getting the results you want then change the way you communicate ... change the way you communicate to yourself and to others... why would you fucking cry and feel bad all day about something you can change...

why not change .. because change is more painfull short term .. it's incredibly painfull short term... this is how the human brain works and one of it's flaws. You created identity meaning to certain things that you need to change , but if yo change them so does your identity - you will lose a part of yourself and this is painfull but it's something you need to go trough... otherwise you will get stuck in this vicious , volatile pattern forever...

if you don't know who you are anymore.... it feels bad but just embrace it.. because that means you can be a new person .. you can learn how to change yourself again and not many people do get that change... most peole think they are managers , police officers , bankers.. they don't know who they are they just identify with their occupation - they think they are happy..

but these are the same people that get shot , or suicide when the stocks go down... does this make sense ?

STOP COMMUNICATING SUPERFICIALLY TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS...

all verbal communication is bullshit .. it's surface level stuff.. it's irrelevant.. the underlaying context is important.. person A says A .. but in reality he means B. What woman says ís not the same as what they think .. this goes for all people... what you say to yourself is not what you really are ...

you experience some emotions .. your brain doesn't understand it so it goes out of control thinking on how you suck or whatever... what are emotions

hemmingway is a negative cocksukcer .. he lived in cuba , huge ass mansion , money , nice weather , doing his passion everyday... If he lived in finland where it's dark for 8 months he would suicide after one day.. don't follow negative cocksuckers with superficial value but who couldn't get their life together. i don't like his shit... even if 50000000 people like what he wrote and still wouldn't like it because that is just me...

don't trust PUA or MPUA .. those are just people having financial interest in you ..

dont imitate someone else.. don't imitate role models and don't assume shit from other people who seem succesfull... it's about you .. you want to know something about you and that can be achieved by looking at yourself and observing your ego. You don't have to meditate everyday for hours .. i don't do that shit im not that kind of guy either... but buddhism has relevance... you need to observe who you are and what you are not ..

that negative shit .. it's probably a automatic response about what you are not.. if you are aware most of the time you can change negative behaviours most of the time.. so keep a journal .. write shit down even if it sounds ridicilious , over a month or 2 when you look back you will see patterns and how stupid you are somtimes , you will laugh at yourself.

inner perspective and awarenss .. just knowing something about you and who that really is ..

you don't have to read psychology books ABCDEFG... just observe yourself and oyu will learn hell alot in practice instead of theory...read shit but realize that too much information can fuck you up as well - confusing you .. you need to be selective about what you want to achieve here.

look there is nothing wrong with going after woman and approaches woman.. it's ok to be a man. it's ok to like and want woman around you.... most guys on this fourm are just full of crap , they just tell you to approach woman BUT that doesn't fix all you issues , it only improves the way you interact with woman ...

again woman are not there to fix your issues , don't treat them like a drug and don't fall in love surrendering your values and boundaries for some vagina...

just fucking go to the mall and look around .. how many woman do you see , how many hot woman do you see ? this whole concept of one-itis is bullshit .. like there is one woman and 99999999 guys... it's not .. there are woman passing by every 10 seconds. you could approach them or talk to them , maybe to get a new GF or just for fun to break some limiting habits...

woman are a commodity.. that means they are expendable , one woman could fuck 10 different men.. vagina is a commodity.. there is enough vagina to supply the whole world .. but you are different because you probably know this already..

what you want is connection and you want to feel good about yourself .. right now you feel like shit.. GUESS WHAT ... do you want to dependent on external things ? approval from other people or vagina ? if you do you probably would live in fear about losing those things everyday.

build connection with yourself and you will connect with others .. maybe other people want to connect with you because you are such a enigmatic , developed character...

you feel like shit .. how you feel is the most important thing on the world , no amount of money could change that ... how many freaking artists and rich guys have killed themselfs ? you want to change the way you feel , you don't want to be a assclown going around wanting approval from woman .. you don't want to be some loser PUA who can't get his shit together... you want to be who you really are.

the pathethic truth is that most guys on this forum are total assclowns ... i do not approach every woman i see and i don't game woman.. i have good game but that doesn't mean i need to get every woman i see... i have sarged solo for years and nowadays i do not sarge much anymore .. i just don't care .. because when you are able to get every woman you will still be unhappy ... because you meet alot of psycho woman and you will realize that most woman totally suck...

then you get a new challenge .. finding the woman who you want...

you see .. don't start a journey without clearity... i thought woman would fix my shit so i would feel less lonely, in the end felt more lonely then ever because i met alot of bad people, didn't expect new challenges to come up.

social interactions are there to enjoy .. to make a better world and to give yourself and someone else some singnificance.. it's a learning moment.. social interactions and relationship do not fix your issues , they can only make your issues emerge so you can change it... you can grow aware by interacting with other people.

again .. control the way you feel.. and it's also ok to feel bad now and then.. you just don't want give control about how you feel to other people..

most people are dumb , ignorant .. alot of americans vote for obama just because he's black .. those people are the downfall of the human species... they only stuff hamburgers , fuck their fat wives and work their boring job all their lives untill they die... you don't want to give control to people or woman like that.. you don't want to sacrifice for some coke sniffing vagina who gets cummed 6 times by differrent guys every week.

it's ok to fuck a whore .. just don't sacrifice your values , boundaries and who you really are lol..

the reason you are fixated with one-itis is because you are fixated on how to make you feel better instead of adressing the real issues .. stop this fucking obsession , you can create such a obsession for every woman out there - it's fucking subjective shit .. stop obsessing about external shit... the only external thing you sohuld worry about is paying your bills , getting groceries and looking who to vote for... the rest is irrelevant...

and you would ask me ..

are most people irrelevant to you
or are most people irrelevant ?

most people are irrelevant .. like i said most people pretend to be happy, they live in fucking unicorn world thinking their pathetic job is the shit.. they are just slaves that cannot identify their issues...

if anyone was adressing their issues and improving everyone would be totally depressed and this is not the case .. because most people are simply ignorant about happiness and about issues.. they live in a pretend world..

you my friend are adressing the issue this makes you part of a elite club of genuises , writes , creative people, people who want to grow and get everything to the next level...like i said .. you don't want to be the hamburger eating television watching ignorant zombie.. you want to be the genuis who develops and who is in touch with things..

so start your path now .. start writing things down .. read books .. observe yourself .. take up new hobbies go do martial arts.. go out sarging.. you don't have to improve you life by results...

improving is a simple desicsion.. getting started is a simple descision ..

so i ask you .. do you want to start .. or do you want to die..

not dead can't quit ... you got nothing to lose .. you already feel fucking bad .. you can only gain and your life can only become better...

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Yes, there are no real techniques for it, just a different mindset.

We want to fall in love, we want it so desperately that we justify it by pretending that we cant help it. But we often decide on it. You have a say in it, if you remember when you were younger you had like 2-3 different girls you were interested in, then when it was time, you chose which one you would fall for. And did. You would never admit it but this is what you did. And you fell for her telling everyone including yourself that it wasnt your fault that you fell for her, even sometimes without her knowing who you were. All of this just to justify the action of falling for someone you had no clue who it was or even if she knew you existed.

Same thing here, you chose it. At an early stage you could have said, no I dont wanna fall for that one, she is stupid or ugly or skinny or fat or whatever. You made the choice.

Dont do that.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

See the bright side guys !
I dont care other girls and that makes me much more confident and sexually
aggresive. If I fail I dont even care little. But dark side I dont feel great even
I succeeded.