This is a very serious topic, and one I'm very passionate about. I feel I need to remind some people that the vast majority of us are not therapists. We are not psychologists or psychiatrists or hold any other qualification that enables us to understand and offer serious psychological advice to people on here.

In turn, I understand a lot of you are desperate for help and results, but if you have serious anxiety or depression, whether it's with or because of a girl, this is not the place to ask for advice. We don't know you well enough or your situation well enough to give proper advice, and even if we did know you and your situation well enough, it would still be dangerous if we didn't understand the inner workings of your particular condition.

It's fine to give an otherwise well adjusted person with a bit of AA a few techniques that might help them overcome it. But when someone gets on here and says they are cripplingly defeated and depressed and can't talk to women, calling them a pussy and telling them to just go out there is a dangerous move. Most likely they've been out there and haven't been able to take action and having the idea that there is something wrong with them because of that is a serious serious problem.

PLEASE FOR THE GOOD OF THE POSTERS AND THE REPLIERS, KEEP THE SERIOUS PSYCHOLOGICAL ANALYSIS FOR THE COUCH.

Most countries and states offer free psychiatric intervention for the more serious cases and that's clearly what some of the people on here are. I advise those replying to suggest a service for the person rather than giving often well intentioned, but misguided none the less, advice.

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I agree with your post in its entirety.

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Well, I am qualified and I agree with many of the points in your post.

However, access to mental health facilities is often fraught with nonsense and expense. One of the reasons why I started doing the rounds of various forums is because I know how hard it is for many people to even get to a place where they can afford the fees of a therapist/mental health professional. Even in my country where the NHS can help in many cases. My skills, qualifications and training mean I provide a lot of value to my clients.

However, I've seen how many people get placed on long waiting lists when they clearly need help sooner rather than later and if I and other people out there can offer something that might calm things down a bit until an individual can access the full help they need, then that's a good thing indeed.

It is true that a forum does not know an individual or how the problems and issues are constructed in the life of an individual person.

However, advice offered in good faith with tips about how certain things have helped them achieve what a poster in this forum wants to achieve are not bad things. Whatever helps or might help may well help. Even if it is only in the short term.

I remember Richard Bandler saying to me at a seminar: "does it matter?" I asked him what he was on about and he replied: "whatever you're worrying about. Does it matter?"

Sometimes it helps to see that other people have gone through similar things to what you're going through. To see that you're not some defect of a person and these problems happen to people who get over them, overcome them and lead normal, healthy lives. Seeing that can help put problems in perspective and help you realise that, whilst it's still a pain, the problem might not be the worst thing ever and it can be defeated or overcome.