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Hey guys I wanted to know what to do to prepare my inner game before going out sarging in a club. What exercises to do or something like that
Thanks for your help
There are tons of things you can do. Keep in mind your goals for these exercises.
1.) Clear your head. You don't want to be in your head in the field thinking of the next steps, you want to be living in the moment and paying attention to all the details. Sometimes breathing exercises and meditation can help amongst other things. It's easy to get caught up thinking about all you need to do, don't!!!
2.) Have Fun! Having fun out there will get the girl most of the time. You can screw up a lot and if you're the most fun option can still get the girl.
3.) Keep a Positive Attitude. Keeping a positive can do attitude is the key to success.
4.) Get talkative. I know by nature a lot of people on here are introverts and aren't that talkative generally. Call up a buddy or someone you know who likes to talk before you go out. That way you are a little more chatty. If they are in the game then they can help you get into state by giving you affirmations.
***Listen to music that you like. Sing it at the top of your lungs. (This works great for learning to project your voice too), dance in your car (regardless of if anyone looks at you), SMILE, and have fun! Don't take this stuff too seriously. It's not dismantling a bomb you should be having fun!
***Work out. Working out releases endorphins that naturally make you feel better.
***Do something nice for yourself...go tan, get a haircut, have a nice dinner, etc. Do nice things for yourself. I always feel better after a haircut for some reason.
***Look into the mirror, into your own eyes and give yourself affirmations.
"You can do this!"
"You are worthy of a great girl in your life."
"People enjoy meeting you."
"You radiate charisma, charm, and grace."
"You are confident and calm."
***Stay away from the negative things in life. I actually did a whole video on keeping and developing a positive mental attitude. Staying away from the negatives is very important.
-Don't watch or read the news. They talk about accidents, deaths, house fires, who's going to jail, the 20% chance of rain not the 80% chance of sunshine. It's almost all negative!
-Don't try to pay bills or anything of that nature!
-Don't allow people who are negative to talk to you or get in your head. If you get a friend calling you and complaining, tell them you'll talk to them tomorrow.
-Generally just avoid doing anything that's gonna cause you stress.
***SMILE, SMILE, SMILE!!! So many guys out there just don't smile. A smile is as contagious as yawning. Yes I know it's not really contagious. BUT a great thing happens when people smile, sooner or later people around them smile. The same thing can happen with frowning too. People tend to mirror others emotions...
***Hydrate! Be properly hydrated by drinks lots of water. It's amazing this helps your body have more energy and generally feel better overall.
**Practice your openers before you go out a few times so you know you're going to be good with them and they're on the tip of your tongue.
***Give people compliments as warm ups as you are about to go into your venue. It helps you get in the habit of approaching again, and it's a nice thing to do.
***Think of happy thoughts! It sounds corny but projecting mental images of yourself doing things you like helps! Think of yourself doing something you really like doing or really want to do. Feel the emotions tied to that, and how good you feel. Now take that feeling in field with you.
Hope some of this helps out brother,
JSmooth
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Happy to assist where I can.