Okay. I've read about books on picks ups and I know the gambler and the kinetic touch( It sort of worked couple of days ago as a test). But there's a problem, no drive to get up and talk to women with a positive attitude. Here's the thing, I woke up in the morning, or close to noon, feeling like crap. I walk out the door all dressed and clean with my back straight and head up but still feel like crap.

However, I do see this person and some other people walk and smile. Like I saw small grins even when they walk to class. I want to be like that but HOW? One time I've went to the office(where the girls were) and I came in with the gloomy look and then some guy with a smile on his face came in and the girls were talking and asking questions about him. I was like, "what's HIS secret?"

So please, help me. I feel there is something wrong with me. What is the way to be happy in the morning to start a great opening of my day to have a drive to smile and talk to people(new people and of course new women)? Is there a routine to learn and do? Thank you

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Well it's not the morning if you're waking up at noon, try going to bed earlier and waking up earlier. Do something that makes you happy as soon as you wake up, start the day with everything just how you like it.

Are you generally happy? If not you need to ask yourself why and start there. I agree with what mi1ooo98 said aswell

I'm not a big smiler myself, but I've just got a great poker face. Are you self conscious about your smile? I'm asking these question for a reason. There are a lot of factors in play with different people.

For me I just don't feel like smiling with out a purpose. Do something that gets you excited or just practice a smile in the mirror. But if you are going to put on a fake smile (which is why I said practice in the mirror) remember its all in the eyes.

what you need is a success boost, confidence will come along once your successful

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You can also try thinking about something good or funny that happened to you or that you saw, no matter if it was small just that it makes you smile when you think of it.

For example I sometimes remember my baby cousin doing something cute like falling on her butt or when a cute girl said hi to me at the mall and made me feel good and smile at that time no matter if it's small try to remember something good that happened to you and made you genuinely smile.

If you have a hard time thinking about something good I would recommend for you to start focusing on the positive and even writing it down, use a notebook and fill it out with positive things no matter how small each day. Sometimes we focus on the negative and completely forget the positive (I've been there) instead dispose of the negative and try to remember the positive i think this will not only help you smile but also feel happier in the long run. Try doing it for 21 days and see if it becomes a habit what have you got to lose right???

Change your diet for the better and see what happens after a few weeks.

A large percentage of people who struggle with changing their attitude for the better are stopped by a bad diet as well as having odd/inconsistent eating times....this can also effect how beneficial your sleep is. This can also cause a loop where someone can't sleep right, so they don't feel well, so they don't pay attention to their diet which causes them to have more problems sleeping, lather, rinse, repeat.

Give it a shot for a few weeks. It takes a bit of time for your system to adjust.

I bolded that part because it jumped out at me. If I felt like there was something wrong with me (and I have felt that at times), I wouldn't smile a lot either. Maybe there is actually nothing wrong with you. Maybe there are good things about yourself that you can appreciate and behaviors you can learn to adopt from others.

Triggerpuller has some great ideas in his post.

From personal experience, I'd do two things. 1. Smile and laugh more on your own. Lighten up, stop taking things seriously, practice gratitude and appreciation, be nice to people, watch/listen to comedy. Experience the 'lightness' of life, not the heaviness. People will be more attracted (in the generic sense) to someone in this more happy and friendly state of being.

2. Practice as early in the day as you can. (If you can get up around dawn, that will actually help your circadian rythym, too.) Go out and walk around your block. Make eye contact, smile, and say hello, or at least head nod, to every person you see. Keep this up for a few weeks, and eventually start conversations about little things. Greet everyone. Don't discriminate between attractive girls and other people. At this point, you just want to get social, nevermind pickup. I believe that I got this one from Sean Messenger articles and podcasts.

sh0gun0ftheast: I know what you mean about the poker face. One thing that has helped me is to just notice, as I'm walking down the street, other people's facial expressions, and keep track of how many people are just smiling for no apparent reason. It was a lot more than I had thought. You can also notice your reaction to others' facial expressions for a switch in perspective.

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Thank you. This is one of the best replies I've read. Your advice is opening my eyes. Today I even thought about myself by one, looking at my flaws and accepting them and two appreciating and noticing things that are great about me. I will get up early and do something to brighten up my morning. NO I WILL NOT WALK OUTSIDE. It's WAYY to cold for that right at this city lol. [/quote]

Thanks for the good words, man. Much credit to Sean Messenger, you can google a lot of his articles.

Yeah, I remember winters in the northeast -- freezing. Probably worse in the upper midwest. Anyway if it's cold out, you still might be able to drive to Starbucks and say hi to the baristas in the morning, or even someone else in line. Generally that gives me a boost as much as the coffee. Also, acceptance and appreciation are both helpful things, so that's awesome that you're thinking about that.

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your problem is that you still haven't figured out who you are, i don't blame you because you're still in high school but throughout your life you will witness and feel many things, what you learn and get out of it depends on you.. you will either continue your life focused on what other people think about you or you will learn to accept the person you are and try to act a little more like yourself each passing day.

stop over analyzing every situation and figuring out how to act, that's no way to live my friend.. you cant be happy this way. the truth is, there are no rules to the "game" you can say just about anything to a girl and get a good response unless you're insulting or harassing her of course. you keep conversations going by asking questions based on her last response and the conversation will grow into something more from there.


so don't try to be like anyone else just accept who you are and work for a better you, don't listen to other peoples shit about you because 1. its not true, you know who you really are and 2. life goes on! thank god, who are they to judge you anyway? all they do is exist.. work hard in life and don't lose sight of your dreams, don't let a girl throw you off track either. start working out hard eating right, read more, exceed in school and everything else. through passion and hard hard work on everything that really matters, you will project a happy sexy successful confident headstrong man. Rome wasn't built in a day, you learn something new everyday and if you do exactly what im telling you then you will have a bright future no doubt.

but through thick and thin alot of success, even more women and money, respect, the power, friends and foe, remember to always and i mean ALWAYS remain a humble being and don't let cockiness overshadow your masterpiece. one day you will truly understand why. now go out there and show em what you're made of!