I never had a problem leaving friends. Through grade school every year i went through i went through friends just the same. I ditched friends i've built connections with over years. Now i live with my dad and i NEED to ditch him, but i just can't. He is a drunk, control freak, and was never really much of a father. His negative lifestyle is affecting me and changing in a negative way. his negative attitude bleeds into me and i carry it everwhere with me.

If i really wanted to i can eaisly get away from him. So the only thing that is stopping me is guilt. I feel if i leave him i'll wound him. I know deep down I should leave him, but i am the last of his five children that still talks to him. Deep down i know that i need to leave him for myself. I know this post is somewhat pointless but i just wanted to rant(courtesey of my dad's beers). Cheers!

Hey man, I know exactly what you mean

Im currently not talking to my dad either, he is a drunk, hasnt helped my mum bring me and my 2 siblings up, financially or otherwise, has pathologically lied over and over to us all, cheated on my mum thats why he left, dragged us through hell...

The list goes on. But still, just not talking to him, everyday almost I feel really guilty.

But one thing I want you to think about, is that the reason hes in the mess he is in, is because of the "Im a victim" frame hes living in. The more you give him undeserved sympathy, the more you feed that and thus nothing will change.

hey im not saying dont be forgiving, if my dad sorted himself out, Id give him a second (fouth/fifth) chance straight away, but until then, you gotta leave it to them.

Stay strong man, do what you know is right, either way

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your right dude i just have to do what is right for me. told him i was planning to leave yesterday and he blew up like i thought he would. we had a huge fight last night. I'd like to think i won the arguement but at the end he turned it around and guilt tripped me. thing is though i feel so much better for it. I didn't leave him yet but now that he knows i want to leave i feel like this burden is of shoulders and i feel more free than i have in a while.