Thanks for your advice. I guess I just need to do some serious meditation. Changing a paradigm is no small task. The solution is vague but I need to gain a better respect for women and appreciation for who they are. I have been so frustrated by women, that i
I hate them. This compounds the problem. The problem is with me and not them. Which saddens me, but I hope that this is something I can improve. This is very vague and it makes me nervous to think about.

I just get so enraged at the failures I encounter. I have no control over it. I get a huge hatred for women when they inexplicably reject. I have no way to handle it. And it compounds my problem.

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It's called maturity bro. Sounds to me like you're in the beginning stages of growing up. A lot of guys never do, because like you said, it's sort of scary/not really fun to think about and look at yourself that hard.

I can assure you, you can improve, and you likely will, because you're aware. Knowing is half the battle. You'll figure it out in your own due time, and you'll be glad you did when it's all over. You might not even know it when you do, but someday it will dawn on you that you really like yourself more than you used to. At the same time, you'll not care so much when people and things don't meet your expectations. It might help you too to take a few personality tests like DISC or the like. This could help you understand genetically why your strengths and weaknesses are what they are.

It's not a fun topic at the start, but if you like intellectual subjects you'll probably find that the more you get into it, the more interested you become in it. Now, I'm glad as hell. Lucky for you you stumbled into this without some major fuck up in life that forced you to start. That was the case with me, but I'm still glad because it got me where I am.

This idea of falling in love with yourself is one that floats around often and I'm not quite sure how somebody can even do that. It must be a difficult task. I'm not a supreme noob with women. I think my number being at 10 before I began delving into pick up is pretty solid. I think my biggest fault is how I cannot deal with failure well. I'm very result driven, which I understand is an issue. I know that I need to solve this problem. I just don't know how. It's ingrained in my psyche. I need to be more relaxed about game and see it as just that, a game.

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I didn't see this post until now. Hopefully you've made some progress. Falling in love with yourself is something that comes naturally when you are true to yourself. For instance, if you don't like your job, but you tell yourself you do, you won't love yourself. You won't love your life. I'm not saying that you can't function or can't be happy, millions of people do it every day. But odds are that if you simply ask yourself what it is you love, what you like to do, what makes you feel good, and you engage in those things, you'll tend to like yourself and your life more. You won't have to work at it, you'll just be at peace with yourself more than anything, and when you are at peace with yourself, what goes on around you has less of an impact on you.

With that said, there will always be some things that do impact you and how you feel. You will always have things that you want, and don't get. But as you mature, you'll get better at realizing that it's ok to be disappointed about something, but that despite your disappointment, your life will go on, and you will be fine. In fact, if you are true to yourself, you'll be happy.

With regards to rejection regarding women, this basically means that you eventually realize that it's ok to be disappointed that a woman you wanted didn't end up with you. Despite that disappointment, 6 months from now, 10 years from now, there is a high probability you may not even remember her name. The deeper the feelings you truly had for her, the longer it will take. Some women you may never forget, but you'll reach a place where you are happy for the experiences you had. Partially this feeling comes from all the subsequent good feelings. It's hard to be mad at an ex wife if you are in the middle of a great new relationship, because had you not lost the last girl, or broken up with the last girl, you wouldn't be having the positive feelings you have with the new one.

Hope that makes some sense. And I hope you're making some progress on your search to solve your problem.