Ok a little about me.
Im 30.
People say I'm better than average looks. I have done some modelling. Im considered pretty witty/intelligent... I work out a lot. Atheltic build. Got a decent job etc

I've slept with about 40/50 women in my life. Helped alot by knowing the principles of game.
I got into game as I had been friendzoned a bit and do not natuarlly have the archetypal alpha male charestistics -
Im in the bracket of the sensitive artisitic type and so its a more common pitfall for us.

But inner game says I need to be the best version of that rather than change to a steroid fuelled monster.

The other part of being in that bracket of guys is that, I do get anxious a bit around girls i like.
Again a bit of vulnerability in the right way is okay do its about being the best version of that... keeping it in check rather than eradicating altogether.

I also like the single life and have been a bit of a comittment phobe - but recently Its bothered me though that
Ive never really had a relationship in my whole life. I couldve have had a few relationships with girls that are 5/6 out of 10...but who wants that?

So since 28 I've tried to be less picky and accept 7+

Now Ive been rejected a few times by 7+ girls, and its been after we get past the first few dates.

Its knocked my confidence whether its 'me' thats the problem and Im starting to wonder if this personality type can actually succeed with a hot girl.

To recap.... I generally know how to be in bars now. the game has given me a roadmap to successfully attract women but as soon as i get to date 2/3/4 i lost my sense of where I am...
I guess this is where game has fucked me up a little.....
I feel like, at what point do i need to stop being conscious of DHVing to the girl, or negging or proving i can be a leader by slipping in a DHV story and bring out some of the more sensitive characteristics.

Sooner or later you need to let your natural self shine in a Rship.....
(I couldn't imagine being in a 20 yr marriage, still thinking i need to throw in a DHV story for that week to my 58 year old wife.).

Cause of some recent rejections though, I'm worried that when i stop 'gaming' and the rehearsed DHV conversations dry up...they'll see the easy going, sensitivity, occasional anxiety and it not be for them.

I've not been beyond a 4th date in a long time and im not going to let my standards slip just to get there with a 5/10.

I guess im almost thinking:
Do i drop game altogether so that I'm more authentic from day one?
Do i try to be confident in my Beta-Male characteristics?
What do i do to get past this sticking point?

turning myself into a that pumped up alpha male tough guy will never ever be congruent.....and true mastery level of game is a pipe dream.

thanks for any of your help or suggestions. fellas.