so, as much fun as it is being a keyboard jockey, i set out about a month ago to make my life more interesting. This doesnt necessarily mean that i went to parties and stuff, but just do some personal life work.

for background reference, im a 3rd year in college, never had a girlfriend, not looking to get laid, but i want to be able to make friends and be an overall social guy.

specifically, i dont like faking confidence, i want to BE confident. i know that a few people use "fake it till you make it" and hopefully im starting to make it.
i started off by looking at my life, and seeing what are the interesting things that i have going for me now. the 3 big chunks of time went to
1. school
2. work
3. gym

not very exciting, even though i can make it sound exciting and interesting. in my freetime, my hobbies are

1. work on my car
2. surf the net
3. watch movies

still pretty average, and still kinda lame.


here is where the change came

i asked myself what ive always wanted to do and why i havent been doing it.

1. play my guitar( too lazy)
2. sing (i took classical singing from 7 till i was 16, and then i thought i was too cool to be a singer)
3. learn to dance ( i hate being the guy that leans on the wall and drinks his beer, i want to be the guy dancing and not doing it for the women.)
why didnt i yet?[/b]too fucking shy[/b].

1.so, i pulled out the guitar, and i practice about an hour a day.

2.i found out that my college has a music school, and it has soundproof booths. i started going in there as often as i could to practice singing. (brett manning has a course- its pretty damn good, worth the money.)

3. i hit up youtube, found some styles of dancing i liked, and i got into it.


basically, i eliminated surfing the internet and watching movies almost entirely without even really trying to. ive met people with the same interests, and have made alot of friends.

Most importantly, if i keep this up, i know that I am an interesting dude, and thats already doing wonders for my confidence.

most of the stuff i wanted to do only cost a few dollars and a bit of time management, but i feel that it is very important to be interesting and confident, not just pretend to bag another girl. the game is not my life, but i think it should be one of many facets of my life.


im sorry for writing a freakin book haha, but i think most guys that turn to the internet for help with dating, just like me, are a little geeky and maybe not as socially savvy as theyd like to be. i thought id share because the hardest part of making the change was actually admitting that there needed to be a change and then making it, and once you get the specifics figured out the motivation is natural.

so ask yourself. what have you wanted to be able to do, and not ever looked into? i cant believe how much its working out for me, i didnt think i was capable.

get off your ass and go do it![/b]

lemme know if this was helpful, or if you guys know any good dance tutorials that are free, since thats the hardest and most frustrating right now, theres progress but its slow.

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