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I'm not sure who told you that you shouldn't chase but they were as wrong as can be. You don't chase from a position of desperation but from a position of the suave man who has decided that out of all the girls in the room, THIS ONE piques your interest and you want to find out more about her and if she is suitable for you to chill with, if she has what it takes. SHOW YOUR INTEREST to girls or be stuck at home jerking it on Saturday nights. It's that simple.
Now, is there room for some push/pull and teasing and negging and all of that? Sure if you want, but the overall construct with a girl is, you jane, me tarzan, me have sex with you; it's caveman-esque, you have to lay it on the line and show your intentions.
In nature across species, "courtship" is dependent on the male having a pair of balls and making his play for the female.
When I was an AFC, from time to time I tried to play "hard to get." I realized women want a MAN who will lay it on the line and make his intentions known either implicitly or explicitly. It's a masculine attribute, hence they are attracted to it.
Thanks a lot oceanx. I'm assuming that it all has to do with the mindset of the approach like you said. I should approach a girl not from a position of being desperate for her approval but instead from a position of she looks interesting and I want to find out whether she's a worthy partner/friend.
Today was my first day actually doing a cold approach and I must say that although I did get a bit of anxiety I'm happy that I didn't blow out. I tried four approaches this morning and although I didn't get any number closes I just felt accomplished that I had the balls to do so. There was one girl that I told "it was nice meeting you, how can we keep in touch?" However, she misheard me and just said "ya" or something like that.
I'm gonna try out this new mindset and see whether it helps me out. Thanks again.
CHAT