my confidence in looks and all superficial qualities is fine and unshakeable.

Rejection doesnt phase me.

However, my issue is, i care what they think lol. way too much.

For example, sometimes if it ends poorly with a girl. And its really their fault due to immaturity or whatever. I feel guilty illogicially and try to make sure we are cool. Because i feel bad, she thinks im an asshole

Or if i meet a girl who isnt dateable at all LOL. like a total hoe. Sometimes ill be really aggressive just to get laid and feel dumb after that she may think im desperate.

Is this too big of a conscience? low self confidence? what is this? and how can i get over it

I don't understand the problem. Don't be an asshole, then you don't have to worry about it. Don't care what strangers think, but if it's people you care about, you should care how they feel. If you just want to hook up, then look for girls who are into that. Don't treat a girl like you will be her boyfriend then fuck'n chuck her. It's just rude imho.

When guys care too much about what women think of them, almost always that's because inside
they feel they need to be accepted by the girl.

If you personally care what women or ppl think of you too much, underneath that fasade of confidence
that you are trying to portray, you probably want people to accept you and love you, and to tell you that
you are "OK" as a person.

Am I right?

The only way to go about this is for you to let go of your need to be accepted, and learn
to accept yourself.

Remind yourself that you are OK as a person, that you don't need their acceptance
or approval, and start being ok with some people just not liking you or approving you.

This doesn't mean you have to be an ass or behave like a jackass. When you do
something sorry, say you're sorry.

But don't say you're sorry just to please someone. Don't submit your own behavior or
what you believe so you get someone to like you.

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